Many women disqualify me in dating solely for being virgin

I have been in this internal struggle to regain my self-esteem despite having turned 30 and remaining a virgin despite not wanting to. I have gained a lot of self-confidence back, but the problem seems to be that a lot seem to think that the virginity issue nullifies any of that.

Even when I stopped answering questions about virginity, a lot of women have made comments about how I "act like a virgin". I am not sure exactly what they mean, except a vague guess being my awkwardness. But I am shy and awkward since childhood, and most likely would still be as shy and awkward even not being a virgin.

But there is a pervading mindset here that virginity as an adult is an unforgivable sin that can never be remedied. In other words, that I could be for example a world-reknowned scientist who found the cure for AIDS and cancer and I would be rejected still, solely due to the virginity. That is to say, that no amount of self-love or self-confidence would compensate for being a virgin at 30.

It does not help that I have Asperger's, OCD, various types of anxiety and now I have become quite paranoid in general.

It is like I am disqualified from participating in the "game" of dating because non-virgins are not even allowed to enter the game in the first place.

Is this just something unique here, or in general terms do most women from other cities and other countries not treat male virgins as harshly as over here?

I can only speak for myself and the actions of people I've known. None of us have ever had a problem with someone being a virgin. In fact a couple of my friends see that as a plus because they will jokingly say the guy hasn't picked up any bad habits yet if he's a virgin. So maybe this is something specific to where you are at but I'm guessing there are rude people everywhere. It is simply rude and bad manners to judge someone for something like virginity.

I don't suppose you are religious? If you are then you could try a christian dating site. I'm sure you could find someone that would see it as a virtue. Good luck to you.

That is strange, I never have heard of that more open-minded attitude here. Here male acquaintances and friends brutally insult and berate male virgins like me. Even supposed friends and family. And women are also very brutal when insulting older male virgins. I am basically disqualified from the dating scene altogether. It is like when you apply for a job, the recruiter wants only people with experience. But how are you supposed to get experience to apply if you need experience in the first place?

I am not religious. I mean I grew up Catholic and stuff, went to Catholic primary school, etc.. But it would be very strange if I went to church for example to date.