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Default Dec 14, 2019 at 06:43 PM
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Does anyone else not have anyone in their lives? I'm talking about no friends, no significant other, no close family members, nobody. That's the situation I am in right now. The isolation and loneliness kills me. I don't know how much longer I can sustain this. My mental health just keeps on getting worse and worse.
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Default Dec 14, 2019 at 06:57 PM
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I'm sorry that you are going through this. Do you work? Are there people there that you can connect with? Can you volunteer somewhere? Does your city have a Meetup? There are many ways to make connections, if you want to. It's hard, though, if you are going through depression or other issues, you have to force yourself to get out there. Art exhibits, wine tastings, just depends on your area and your interests.
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Default Dec 14, 2019 at 09:49 PM
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I first came here to PC because of my loneliness. Mental illness can really make us feel isolated. I also have no friends and no partner. My parents live in a different part of the country, and the rest of my family splintered off a very long time ago. I've done volunteer work, meetups, political events, and the like. I'm also exploring faith groups. The most important think is to make yourself keep going out there even if it feels hopeless. You'll eventually find the right fit. It's also important to take the time to just be on your own to reset your mind, instead of just focusing on how lonely you are. I know first-hand how hard that is. When we feel pain, it's impossible to ignore, and ignoring it only makes it stronger. Finding other things to focus on, and reminding myself that so very many other people are feeling the exact same way, has helped me a lot. Pain is part of the shared human experience. I'm still in the same situation but feel more comfortable that I'm taking the needed steps to really change my life. Support groups might help you if you have one near where you live. Some people at your workplace might be open to friendships, as whatdoesitmean said.
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Default Dec 14, 2019 at 09:58 PM
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You are not alone. Depression is a debilitating, vicious cycle. Before being depressed I was very socially active. Many friends and several very fulfilling relationships. The last year life has been marred by extreme isolationism, loss of friends, and significant other. I only have a few family members and two friends that have remained. If at all possible exercise and reaching out to others in ‘specific’ social settings is recommended. But the problem being when we are depressed, we isolate ourselves, perhaps unknowingly. I had isolated myself from my girlfriend who I lived with and finally the relationship deteriorated and she moved out. So if you’re seeking outside stimulation of any kind, maybe a good sign that you are healing and ready for exterior relationships. I’m the midst of my depression, I completely shut down and was despondent for many months. When was the last time you had any social connection of any kind? Are you on medication? How long have you been depressed? Situational or chemical?
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