Feeling sad and lonely

Deilla · Jan 09, 2020 at 04:32 PM

Thanks! Yes, it is lonely. You're right. My sister J is the one with the problem. I will try to focus on people who do care about me.

Deilla · Jan 10, 2020 at 11:27 PM

I got very upset at my sisters today. I sent them messages. J said I could visit her when she's visiting my mom. That's true. Only problem is I don't like to leave my house. That doesn't address the fact that she doesn't text or call anymore. And C got very upset with me. She said, "All you see is you and what you want." I tried to explain that I wanted to work on a relationship. I guess I'm a selfish, uncaring ***** for wanting that.

I must be the one with the problem. That's how they see it. There's nothing I can do about that. I just have to learn to accept the things I can not control. I guess now I will figure out how to do that.

Deilla · Jan 11, 2020 at 06:06 AM

I found an article that really helped me. I'm feeling so much better this morning. I'm no longer bothered by my relationship with my sisters. Here's the article:

How to accept things

Sunflower123 · Jan 12, 2020 at 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Deilla

I found an article that really helped me. I'm feeling so much better this morning. I'm no longer bothered by my relationship with my sisters. Here's the article:

How to accept things

Awesome article! Thanks for sharing. I have had a contentious relationship with my sister and it has hurt for years. Acceptance and peace about the situation came to me in the last month or two of 2019. In the short period of time that I let go and accepted it for what it was, our relationship actually started improving.

I wish you well. (((((Hugs)))))

downandlonely · Jan 12, 2020 at 02:34 PM

I'm glad you're learning acceptance.

Deilla · Jan 17, 2020 at 10:08 PM

My sister J sent me a hurtful text message Saturday morning. I was very sensitive to it. I didn't react well and ended up going to the hospital. It was an accumulation of a lot of things. I was driven into a deep depression. The hospital helped me. I did some journaling while there to help me better understand the importance of acceptance. I had to accept a lot of unpleasant things in the hospital. My mantra now is, "It is what it is."

Deilla · Jan 18, 2020 at 05:37 AM

It was nice in the hospital. When I wanted to relax, I colored in coloring books. I also did some drawing. I had people to talk to, snacks to eat, nicorette gum, water/tea and some coffee. I'm starting to feel bad being at home. I suppose I can pull out my coloring books and do some of the same stuff I was doing in the hospital. It's still hard to play games. My mouse hand hurts a lot. Today I can work on cleaning my house and and try to talk with family.

Sunflower123 · Jan 18, 2020 at 04:58 PM

I’m wishing you well now that you are back home. I’m sending prayers, positive vibes and safe hugs. I’m sorry your insurance won’t pay for IOP at this time. I’m also sorry about J. That was unnecessary. I’m so glad you took care of you and did what you needed to do. I support you and am here if you ever need to talk.

Fuzzybear · Jan 18, 2020 at 07:14 PM

I'm sending hugs

Deilla · Jan 18, 2020 at 07:22 PM

Thank you so much! Today has gone fairly well. I have kept myself busy and I was able to play a game that didn't require a lot of mouse movement. It was fun!

Deilla · Jan 21, 2020 at 02:05 AM

I'm feeling a little sad tonight. A friend told me, "Good bye" and "Don't contact me again" while I was in the hospital. They were upset that I didn't respond to a message right away. I couldn't respond. I was hospitalized. This person just ended the relationship. They didn't even ask if I was Okay. Normally if you don't hear from someone, you worry and want to make sure that person is fine. I guess this individual was not really a friend. They were just using me, it feels like. As soon as I couldn't feed their ego with warm responses, they ended the relationship. I don't feel like explaining anything because this person was so cold. And they said don't contact them.

Sunflower123 · Jan 21, 2020 at 06:54 AM

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You don’t need friends that don’t make you feel like sunshine. Please know there are many people that care for and respect you here. It’s really nice having you around. Sending safe hugs and supportive vibes.

Deilla · Jan 21, 2020 at 12:05 PM

Thank you! The best thing for me to do is focus on the nice friendships I do have.

Deilla · Jan 22, 2020 at 02:16 AM

I mended things with my sisters J and C. I was able to chat with J while I was in the hospital. The conversation went well. And then once I was out, I sent her a nice text. She was friendly back. As for C, I sent her a nice message too. She said she was thinking about me. I thought that was really sweet of her. I will try to maintain healthy relationships with my sisters. It's all in my attitude. Now if I could just fix my problem with being so lonely all the time. It's odd. I can talk to 3 or 4 different people in one day and still feel lonely. I guess I don't feel understood or supported. I suppose I have to learn to give that to myself.

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Deilla Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Oct 2017 Location: Limsa Lominsa Posts: 29,401 (SuperPoster!) 6 49.2k hugs given	Jan 09, 2020 at 04:32 PM #21 Thanks! Yes, it is lonely. You're right. My sister J is the one with the problem. I will try to focus on people who do care about me. __________________ ‘Live for now,’ ‘This too shall pass,’ ‘Everything is happening for my good.’
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Deilla Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Oct 2017 Location: Limsa Lominsa Posts: 29,401 (SuperPoster!) 6 49.2k hugs given	Jan 11, 2020 at 06:06 AM #23 I found an article that really helped me. I'm feeling so much better this morning. I'm no longer bothered by my relationship with my sisters. Here's the article: How to accept things __________________ ‘Live for now,’ ‘This too shall pass,’ ‘Everything is happening for my good.’
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Jan 12, 2020 at 02:34 PM #25 I'm glad you're learning acceptance.
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Sunflower123 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jan 2015 Location: USA Posts: 26,543 (SuperPoster!) 9 95k hugs given	Jan 18, 2020 at 04:58 PM #28 I’m wishing you well now that you are back home. I’m sending prayers, positive vibes and safe hugs. I’m sorry your insurance won’t pay for IOP at this time. I’m also sorry about J. That was unnecessary. I’m so glad you took care of you and did what you needed to do. I support you and am here if you ever need to talk.
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Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Member Since Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 96,326 (SuperPoster!) 21 81.2k hugs given	Jan 18, 2020 at 07:14 PM #29 I'm sending hugs __________________
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Deilla Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Oct 2017 Location: Limsa Lominsa Posts: 29,401 (SuperPoster!) 6 49.2k hugs given	Jan 18, 2020 at 07:22 PM #30 Thank you so much! Today has gone fairly well. I have kept myself busy and I was able to play a game that didn't require a lot of mouse movement. It was fun! __________________ ‘Live for now,’ ‘This too shall pass,’ ‘Everything is happening for my good.’
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Sunflower123 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jan 2015 Location: USA Posts: 26,543 (SuperPoster!) 9 95k hugs given	Jan 21, 2020 at 06:54 AM #32 I’m so sorry this happened to you. You don’t need friends that don’t make you feel like sunshine. Please know there are many people that care for and respect you here. It’s really nice having you around. Sending safe hugs and supportive vibes.
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Deilla Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Oct 2017 Location: Limsa Lominsa Posts: 29,401 (SuperPoster!) 6 49.2k hugs given	Jan 21, 2020 at 12:05 PM #33 Thank you! The best thing for me to do is focus on the nice friendships I do have. __________________ ‘Live for now,’ ‘This too shall pass,’ ‘Everything is happening for my good.’
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