Feeling sad and lonely

Deilla · Dec 27, 2019 at 09:44 AM

I've been trying to have a good attitude today. I've been feeling lonely a lot lately. When I reach out to people, they end up not having time for me. The response is "No!" or they just get off the phone. I've asked people to come over to visit. No one is interested. My mom totally dismissed me today. I feel hurt and very sad. I don't know how I will recover. I wanted a good day today. I was alone for Christmas. I'm trying to reach out now.

I don't know. Maybe I am rambling. My half-sister L is the only one that cares. She had a different mother. She's a nice person. I swear... my mom raised awful kids. She did a crappy job with me too. I'm totally dysfunctional.

MickeyCheeky · Dec 27, 2019 at 11:28 AM

I am so sorry you're feeling so Alone! It certainly sucks. We're here for You though. Please keep reaching out here! You deserve to live a better Life. Hopefully someone will be able to reach out to You when the Holidays are over. Perhaps they're really busy!

I am happy your Half-Sister L cares about You at least! Hang on to her but also try to take care of Yourself. Do something nice for Yourself. Perhaps read a Book? Keep your Mind Occupied! You deserve to be HAPPY!

Let us know if we can help somehow! We do care about You!

Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @Deilla, Your Family, Your Friends, Your Mother, Your Half-Sister L, Your Brothers, Your Sisters, Your Uncles, Your Cousins, Your Doctors, Your Pdocs, Your Therapists, Your Psychiatrists, Your Nurses and ALL of Your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

Mopey · Dec 27, 2019 at 12:48 PM

Can you reach out to L, Deilla?

Deilla · Dec 27, 2019 at 01:23 PM

Thank you! I appreciate the support. I'm trying to nurture myself this afternoon by watching inspirational videos. And I think I will sleep extra too.

My sister L said I could call her tonight. She is working at the moment. So I will reach out to her later.

Thanks again! I'm trying to make today better.

LilyMop · Dec 27, 2019 at 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Deilla

Thank you! I appreciate the support. I'm trying to nurture myself this afternoon by watching inspirational videos. And I think I will sleep extra too.

My sister L said I could call her tonight. She is working at the moment. So I will reach out to her later.

Thanks again! I'm trying to make today better.

I’m glad you are doing a bit better. Some days are harder than others.

Mopey · Dec 27, 2019 at 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by LilyMop

I’m glad you are doing a bit better. Some days are harder than others.

Too true, LilyMop, too true.

Deilla · Dec 27, 2019 at 08:24 PM

I ended up relaxing with an online game and some spiked coffee. Tomorrow will be nice. My sister A is coming by with her daughter. I offered to pay my niece to clean my floors since it's so difficult for me. She said she would love to. They'll get to visit with me for a while and I'll enjoy all the help. Having a clean home helps improve my mood. Makes it easier to invite people over.

Mopey · Dec 27, 2019 at 11:25 PM

Sounds really good, Deilla. Many hugs and blessings to you for hanging in there and trying to help yourself. I happen to think that matters a lot. Best wishes for tomorrow. 😊

MrsA · Dec 28, 2019 at 01:43 AM

I know how you feel. Usually, coming to this forum makes me feel better, but today every post I read reminds me of scary problems in my life. I hope you feel better soon. I'm going to skulk off before I spread more of my gloom.

bpcyclist · Dec 28, 2019 at 06:28 AM

I really connect with you on this topic, Deilla. I started a somewhat similar thread, because people seemed often not even to answer my texts or emails and stuff. It makes me sad. I am very glad you have your sister, that is fantastic.

I try to focus on what I do have rather than what I don't have. I have my HP. I have you guys. I have a couple of friends and my dad. Some bike forum buds. So, it could be worse.

I don't have any words of wisdom, sorry. But I do hope you have fun with your sis.

Deilla · Dec 28, 2019 at 09:15 AM

Thank you! So far this morning has gone well. I'm prepared for the visit. I'm just waiting for them to arrive. I wanted to call my mom this morning, but I stopped myself. I told her if she wanted to talk, she would have to be the one to call. It's so difficult to call her and the she rushes me off the phone without offering to call back. Obviously she is too busy to have a relationship with me. She won't call me. She never calls her children. Not even on birthdays.

That is good to focus on what you do have. So I will try to let the anger go and focus on the people who do care and do want a relationship with me.

Deilla · Dec 28, 2019 at 06:33 PM

I was feeling bad about my mom so I apologized to her. She won't call me otherwise. I guess I just have to be more understanding. She'll talk to me when she's not busy.

My sister's visit went well. We did a lot of cleaning. I am tired. And for some reason I feel really sad. Maybe I overdid it.

Mopey · Dec 29, 2019 at 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Deilla

It's so difficult to call her and the she rushes me off the phone without offering to call back. Obviously she is too busy to have a relationship with me. She won't call me. She never calls her children. Not even on birthdays.

That is good to focus on what you do have. So I will try to let the anger go and focus on the people who do care and do want a relationship with me.

I think it can't help but hurt when your mom doesn't want that, though, Deilla. I think a mother has a special place in her children's life and when she won't step up, it does some damage.

My mother wasn't interested in me either, no matter how hard I tried, and quite frankly, it hurt. Still does.

Deilla · Dec 31, 2019 at 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Mopey

I think it can't help but hurt when your mom doesn't want that, though, Deilla. I think a mother has a special place in her children's life and when she won't step up, it does some damage.

My mother wasn't interested in me either, no matter how hard I tried, and quite frankly, it hurt. Still does.

Yes, it hurts. I don't quite understand it. I just feel like I'm not important enough. But I don't feel like holding on to the anger or hurt. It is what it is.

Sorry you went through that with your mom.

Deilla · Dec 31, 2019 at 05:17 PM

It's new year's eve. I heard from my sister L today. She wants me to call her at midnight. So I will. I'll wish her a happy new year. I also got a text from my sister A. We might play an online game tonight. I sure hope so. If not I'll just sleep and then wake up at 11 pm. Wishing everyone a Happy New Year!

Deilla · Jan 05, 2020 at 05:16 PM

Last time I heard from my family was New years day. I'm not feeling all that well today. I'm pretty sad and lonely. It hurts that they never initiate contact.

Mopey · Jan 07, 2020 at 12:07 AM

Yes, Deilla, it hurts. And that’s the truth; I don’t care what anybody says. (((( HUGS ))))

giddykitty · Jan 07, 2020 at 12:36 AM

i can relate. sending positive wishes your way!

Deilla · Jan 09, 2020 at 02:43 AM

Yesterday was a bad day for me. I became severely depressed. I spoke with my mom and she mentioned how my sister J has been going over to her house to visit every Wednesday. J won't even call me or text me. It hurt so much that she has free time and won't even think of me. I sent her an email a week ago asking why she quit texting and calling. She never did respond. I don't know how to cope with this. I don't know how to let it go.

I feel like I'm not lovable. I feel like no one cares about me. I feel worthless.

giddykitty · Jan 09, 2020 at 04:07 PM

It sounds to me like your sister has the problem, not you. Don't feel unlovable or worthless. Let her go. I know it's family, but still, you shouldn't be wasting your effort on someone who won't reciprocate. Maybe someday she'll come around and explain things. Maybe talk to her then, but just don't waste your time now. I'll give you a little insight. Mom is center in my family too. I hardly hear from my siblings, but they do talk to Mom. I still believe I have a friendly relationship with my siblings, but I don't go out of my way if they don't. Know what I mean? I do know it's lonely though...that's why I forum.

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Mopey Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: California Posts: 2,025 5 1,520 hugs given	Dec 27, 2019 at 12:48 PM #3 Can you reach out to L, Deilla? __________________
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Mopey Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: California Posts: 2,025 5 1,520 hugs given	Dec 27, 2019 at 11:25 PM #8 Sounds really good, Deilla. Many hugs and blessings to you for hanging in there and trying to help yourself. I happen to think that matters a lot. Best wishes for tomorrow. 😊 __________________
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MrsA Member Member Since Apr 2019 Location: Nevada Posts: 308 4 398 hugs given	Dec 28, 2019 at 01:43 AM #9 I know how you feel. Usually, coming to this forum makes me feel better, but today every post I read reminds me of scary problems in my life. I hope you feel better soon. I'm going to skulk off before I spread more of my gloom.
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Deilla Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Oct 2017 Location: Limsa Lominsa Posts: 29,401 (SuperPoster!) 6 49.2k hugs given	Jan 05, 2020 at 05:16 PM #16 Last time I heard from my family was New years day. I'm not feeling all that well today. I'm pretty sad and lonely. It hurts that they never initiate contact. __________________ ‘Live for now,’ ‘This too shall pass,’ ‘Everything is happening for my good.’
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Mopey Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: California Posts: 2,025 5 1,520 hugs given	Jan 07, 2020 at 12:07 AM #17 Yes, Deilla, it hurts. And that’s the truth; I don’t care what anybody says. (((( HUGS ))))
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giddykitty Grand Poohbah Member Since Jan 2018 Location: United States Posts: 1,639 6 3,229 hugs given	Jan 07, 2020 at 12:36 AM #18 i can relate. sending positive wishes your way!
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