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Default Jan 03, 2020 at 12:44 PM
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Could emotional abuse cause a person to go into depression? I feel like I am getting depressed again from all the put down, verbal abuse the feeling of not being able to do anything right.
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Yes, emotional abuse does cause depression. I know this for a fact, because I grew up being emotionally abused by both of my parents.

And, working with therapists over the years, doing DBT and CBT therapies and the fact that I have a very cool GP who understands how the mind effects the body (because it does, no matter how much Western medicine denies it - our mind influences our body's functions).

There are short term and long-term side effects of emotional abuse. Short term side effects of e.a. are feeling fear, confusion, shame, or feeling hopeless. Long term side effects of e.a. are acute or chronic anxiety attacks (I have that), feeling withdrawn socially or isolating, feeling loneliness, feeling guilty for being emotionally abused (like, you somehow deserve it or cause it -- which is not true at all), or you can self sabotage or feel paranoia even, about your thoughts and choices, because the person emotionally abusing you has worn down your self-esteem to the point where you doubt your own value and worth.

Now, emotional abuse has been linked to fibromyalgia (like, legitimately linked via tests and research). So, you can develop chronic pain in your muscles i.e. fibromyalgia, from being emotionally abused.

I also experience acute bouts of insomnia that I know are tied to my emotional abuse history. I also know that I'm hypervigilant because of the emotional abuse I've experienced. It doesn't help matters, that I still have PTSD from a road bike vs. mobility van truck accident that happened to me 19 years ago (when a mobility van driver ran through a 4-way interaction and ran me over, that gave me a TBI, and 6 months on the rehabilitation floor of my local hospital). To this day, if I hear tires screech, my PTSD gets triggered and I'll either scream, or I'll have a massive panic attack. No, that wasn't an example of emotional abuse, but my point of how our mind directly influences our body.

So, short answer: yes, emotional abuse causes a person to go through periods of depression. Does your husband verbally abuse you?
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Yes, emotional abuse does cause depression. I know this for a fact, because I grew up being emotionally abused by both of my parents.

And, working with therapists over the years, doing DBT and CBT therapies and the fact that I have a very cool GP who understands how the mind effects the body (because it does, no matter how much Western medicine denies it - our mind influences our body's functions).

There are short term and long-term side effects of emotional abuse. Short term side effects of e.a. are feeling fear, confusion, shame, or feeling hopeless. Long term side effects of e.a. are acute or chronic anxiety attacks (I have that), feeling withdrawn socially or isolating, feeling loneliness, feeling guilty for being emotionally abused (like, you somehow deserve it or cause it -- which is not true at all), or you can self sabotage or feel paranoia even, about your thoughts and choices, because the person emotionally abusing you has worn down your self-esteem to the point where you doubt your own value and worth.

Now, emotional abuse has been linked to fibromyalgia (like, legitimately linked via tests and research). So, you can develop chronic pain in your muscles i.e. fibromyalgia, from being emotionally abused.

I also experience acute bouts of insomnia that I know are tied to my emotional abuse history. I also know that I'm hypervigilant because of the emotional abuse I've experienced. It doesn't help matters, that I still have PTSD from a road bike vs. mobility van truck accident that happened to me 19 years ago (when a mobility van driver ran through a 4-way interaction and ran me over, that gave me a TBI, and 6 months on the rehabilitation floor of my local hospital). To this day, if I hear tires screech, my PTSD gets triggered and I'll either scream, or I'll have a massive panic attack. No, that wasn't an example of emotional abuse, but my point of how our mind directly influences our body.

So, short answer: yes, emotional abuse causes a person to go through periods of depression. Does your husband verbally abuse you?
I was never been married. However my mom and sibling and their significant others has emotionally abuse me then it turn into my friend and ex-boyfriend who emotionally abuse me.
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Default Jan 07, 2020 at 12:13 AM
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Most definitely it can. You’ve never been given the opportunity to develop strong, healthy roots. I think all you can do is try slowly to build them up yourself, with expert help.
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Default Jan 09, 2020 at 09:34 AM
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I agree.
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Most definitely it can. You’ve never been given the opportunity to develop strong, healthy roots. I think all you can do is try slowly to build them up yourself, with expert help.
I will try to build myself up.
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Please do, dear Buffy1. It's a slow process. Just don't give up.

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Default Jan 11, 2020 at 09:10 PM
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People emotionally abuse others with the intent of causing self-doubt, shame, and feelings of worthlessness. Those in turn make us feel depressed. And those scars can last for a very long time. But with the right support we can heal.
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Do you have a therapist or someone you can turn to for emotional support?
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I also think that people emotionally abuse others with the intent of causing self doubt, feelings of worthlessness, and shame. It is possible to heal with support from a therapist or other supportive people

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Please do, dear Buffy1. It's a slow process. Just don't give up.
I'm working on myself and looking for new ways to heal up all of my wounds.
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People emotionally abuse others with the intent of causing self-doubt, shame, and feelings of worthlessness. Those in turn make us feel depressed. And those scars can last for a very long time. But with the right support we can heal.
That true. That why I am looking for new ways to heal my emotional pain.
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Do you have a therapist or someone you can turn to for emotional support?
We don't have a lot of mental health services because they are making everyone who is qualify out of state and those left behind aren't licensed to practice.
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I also think that people emotionally abuse others with the intent of causing self doubt, feelings of worthlessness, and shame. It is possible to heal with support from a therapist or other supportive people
I'm looking for self help video and self help books to help heal.
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Emotional abuse can definitely be a cause of Depression, dear @Buffy01. In fact, I'd go as far as saying that it is one of THE major causes for it. Don't worry, you'll get better with Time. Just treat yourself with the same kindness that you also treat others and the other people here. You can do this! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Buffy01, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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A little book I like, dear Buffy01, is Taming Your Gremlin, by Rick Carson.


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Emotional abuse can definitely be a cause of Depression, dear @Buffy01. In fact, I'd go as far as saying that it is one of THE major causes for it. Don't worry, you'll get better with Time. Just treat yourself with the same kindness that you also treat others and the other people here. You can do this! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Buffy01, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
I have a lot of compassion for others but none for myself. I will keep that in mind.
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A little book I like, dear Buffy01, is Taming Your Gremlin, by Rick Carson.

I will look for that book.
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I have a lot of compassion for others but none for myself. I will keep that in mind.

I struggled with this too and it only caused me to attack myself over and over again, keeping me locked in my depression for decades. The self-compassion exercises here in this link have benefited me so much and offered me a path for healing:
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I struggled with this too and it only caused me to attack myself over and over again, keeping me locked in my depression for decades. The self-compassion exercises here in this link have benefited me so much and offered me a path for healing:
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I think that the emotional abuse cause me to have pstd. Thank you for the links. I will check that out.
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