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Hello, I feel like I'm the ugliest man alive and that No women would want me.My therapist doesn't help me....I feel like I'm the only one that cant be helped.Does anyone feel that way also?
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Yes, I've had therapists who made me feel that way. In my case, I had complicated issues around food and body image. I really felt that I could have liked my body - even though it wasn't as thin as the media images around me suggested it should be - with help from the t. Disastrously, she seemed to agree that I should lose weight. I was devastated.

I'm sure you're not ugly. You don't have to be classically handsome to be loved.
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Yes, I've had therapists who made me feel that way. In my case, I had complicated issues around food and body image. I really felt that I could have liked my body - even though it wasn't as thin as the media images around me suggested it should be - with help from the t. Disastrously, she seemed to agree that I should lose weight. I was devastated.

I'm sure you're not ugly. You don't have to be classically handsome to be loved.
I've had a therapist who made me feel that way also. I too had some complicated issues around food and body image. Grrrrr… that T.

I'm also sure you are not ugly and are loveable.

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Default Jan 25, 2020 at 03:57 PM
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I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I am quite sure you are not ugly, whatever that word even means.

Have you ever read about body dysmorphic disorder, by chance? If not, I'd advise that you do so and see if you honestly, in your heart of hearts, think you might could have it. If so, then some medications may help.

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Thanks guys for the kind words...You guys are my support...Thanks again
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Default Jan 26, 2020 at 07:54 PM
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I’m sorry that your therapist wasn’t helpful with that. I’m sure you are not ugly and you sound like a really great and wonderful guy.
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I'm sorry you feel that way. I think the problem is more with your self esteem than your physical appearance. I'm sorry your therapist won't help.
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I have been looking into the Body Dysmorphic Disorder....More so then usual....I think there was denial that I had Body Dysmorphic Disorder...
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I have been looking into the Body Dysmorphic Disorder....More so then usual....I think there was denial that I had Body Dysmorphic Disorder...
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Default Feb 12, 2020 at 03:00 AM
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I'm pleased you're leaning towards a diagnosis or treatment that might address this awful feeling.

I'd imagine that diagnosing this condition would be somewhat broad? I'm not sure, but it would for instance cross over with what people with eating orders experience...

But maybe that doesn't matter too much, as the treatment would in any case be targeting useful areas, like self esteem...

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Default Feb 18, 2020 at 07:21 PM
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I found a great book, it's entitled The BDD Workbook Overcome Body Dysmorphic Disorder and End BODY Image obsession...
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That sounds good, magic man. Have you started it yet?
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Default Feb 19, 2020 at 07:47 PM
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Hi guys,
Yes I just started reading the workbook..I'ts very interesting to read and get the treatment that I receive from the book...
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Please do let us know more, if you'd like to.
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