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Jan 26, 2020 at 10:58 AM
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My thoughts and crap have me thinking negative thoughts in my relationship. If I dont get a answer to a text message right away, I start thinking. When I leave her place, I get depressed and start thinking she is with someone else. I'm really lost and confused on what to do. I don't want to bring any of this stuff up to her cause I know it will cause an argument. I don't want to ask how she is feeling, etc cause from what i have been reading, seeking reassurance all the time is not a good thing. Does anyone have any thoughts, etc to try to overcome this. I hate feeling like this.
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Jan 27, 2020 at 12:54 PM
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Hi Jmatch,
I have experiencing this myself. In my case, consulting with a therapist helped me. I sure hope you find something that helps you! |
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Jan 27, 2020 at 03:10 PM
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Jan 27, 2020 at 07:30 PM
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Have you had relationships before, Jmatch?
I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm sure lots of people will understand how awful it is to feel jealous. As you say, seeking reassurance won't really help as it gives the message that you are, firstly, insecure and, secondly, don't trust her. It's OK to show insecurities further into a relationship, but it might be off-putting early on. Myself, I don't mind insecurities being shown. But that's because I have a lot myself! Do you have a good friend who can be your phone monitor, and take it off you for several hours a day. I haven't tried that myself, but it might help you to break the habit of obsessively checking for messages. Good luck. It's hard, and I sympathise. |
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