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For me - how to make fewer mistakes.
My ''mother'' said to me that I was ''always making mistakes'' - she did not have any additional ''wisdom'' to offer. I do not remember how I responded to that comment, if at all Obviously it stung me deeply as I still remember it (I wish I could forget that and other things my primary ''caregivers'' said and did to me in early childhood, childhood, adolescence.... I still do make mistakes sometimes. Believe me when I say I beat myself up very effectively for each mistake I make Has anyone found a way to eliminate making any errors in their life? I would guess nobody has, since I do not think its possible for any human to be perfect.... so I guess the best I can do is not to beat myself up too long for every unintentional mistake or possibly less than ''kind'' word I may utter when triggered...… I really try not to do that and I think mostly I succeed (but not always) Does that make me a bad person who should be shunned? Permanently? My internal snake who was ''born'' from abuse many many years ago would say that yes it does make me a bad person and that even if I apologize for any wrong I have done or said, that is not ok, since I do not deserve to be forgiven, much less understood... ''I'' do not agree with my inner snake's proclamation respect and empathy to all who are battling inner snakes or inner critics or any conflict in themselves or any relationship and the beast of depression. As a few (many?) may know I am one of the (relatively few) people who cant tolerate meds. This doesn't make life at all easy for me in real life or sometimes online either (there are many reminders, and of course anxiety due to …. CPTSD... I could go on __________________ |
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fuzzy who do you want to be in charge of you....in the drivers seat..
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Sometimes I find the world quite hostile and even scary... I do not like the ''truth'' that the world often is that way
and sometimes (occasionally) my inner snake reacts to a misperception... sometimes I misread people.. and boy do I suffer from that, so many have punished me far over the top for what my snake did or said... at least it feels that way. But of course, mostly it was those ''primary caregivers'' who punished me Those ''primary caregivers'' who hurt me over and over again and kept telling me and showing me that I was ''a bad person'' who ''should be punished all my life'' (this started before I can remember and I remember something when I was 4....) (not about anyone on pc) __________________ |
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fuzzy i have a story.....a young woman i knew was drug addicted and in court...
she wanted the judge to know that she made SO MANY MISTAKES.... BUT THAT SHE WAS A GOOD GIRL....the judge had tears that i could see... we are what we are today....but today we can choose to think differently about us....baby steps.... |
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Yet again, I have made, another mistake, quite recently. Today is another day.... I try not to hang onto ''grudges'' …. if I even had a ''grudge'' in the first place which usually I do not... Some judges are kind, ''the judge had tears that I could see'' Thank you little turtle __________________ |
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I wish I had said to one of the units that ''I AM A GOOD GIRL''
I really do not think they would have listened with all my mistakes and being ''a bad person'' I have never been in a court of law.... I am thankful for those who are kind judges of those who are less ''powerful'' than them and it saddens me when children are abused or animals or anyone who is ''vulnerable'' __________________ |
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fuzzy i just recently was hysterical about all the mistakes
that i have made with my wife...i have hurt her....i am guilty.. but we are human beings.....he who is without sin cast the first stone... no stone was thrown... |
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I just want to say, for what it is worth, I am sorry to anyone I have ever confused or triggered on pc, it was not intentional. I am guilty, I am human, I can only take ONE day at a time, and try to do better Today.
All communication is so hard, with papa bear, with doctors, other professionals, even online sometimes. I AM A GOOD GIRL __________________ |
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Today I feel sad. I am ''too needy''. I have some needs I am human
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My father told me I had ''blotted my copybook''
they would not forgive I try to forgive I do not bear ''grudges'' I think they are poison to the soul that doesn't mean I can wipe away memories of severe abuse irl, I wish I could I make mistakes I AM A GOOD BEAR __________________ |
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I've had a very rough day with Papa bear today
I am guilty I am ''too easily triggered'' and when I am triggered I am not always in ''complete control'' of every word I say neither is papa bear does that mean we are both ''Bad people'' I'm so tired the ''mother'' said I am an ''emotional drain'' I know it I am guilty I am not ''a success'' I can't ''control'' everything in the world or let them know I am about LOVE and not hate __________________ |
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fuzzy-----maybe you are looking for love in the wrong places....
i dont think you will find it from other persons now... unless you have a pet...you need to love yourself...it is so hard... try mindfulness.....it will help you if you do it... try looking at jon kabat-zinn.... i am sorry for being so direct... |
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I understand the idea of ''loving self'' you don't think I will find any love from other persons now? I am not sure what you mean... or maybe I do The world does not have very much love.. or very much tolerance .. mindfulness.. yes and its sad how Desiree deleted, I do not understand what happened I didn't ask her.. I don't need to understand the world is not becoming more compassionate or more loving at least from where I am. maybe I am wrong __________________ |
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