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I've just been so depressed recently and I have always thought that "survivor" is such an over-used word. I think it should be reserved for people of large tragedies that were truly outside of their immediate world, like terrorist attacks or kidnappings. I don't think it should be a lable for someone in an abusive relationship or even bad childhood.
Now, I'm wondering if I call myself a survivor of abusive people in my past and accept my depression as a result, am I just enabling myself to act depressed? What is the benefit of the "survivor" label? |
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Yeah, interesting question. I personally don't really like these terms--survivor, consumer. Probably some others. I guess I usually just refer to myself as a patient, as that is how I view myself.
I am very sorry you are struggling at the moment. I really don't believe it is possible to "enable" oneself into a legit depression. It's a biological, neurologic/psychiatric disease. At least, that is now I have always seen it. __________________ When I was a kid, my parents moved a lot, but I always found them--Rodney Dangerfield |
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Anyone that makes it through something that likely would have killed them is a survivor. If you’ve been chronically depressed, and you’re still here, then you are surviving it. . Well wishes to be strong and heal for you.
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I see myself as an overcomer (Don't like the term survivor)
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Bad childhood. it does take something to survive that without turning into ?
Probably helpful.. Not if it involves certain things though I’m not into judging and labelling. It bores me. Too many “professionals” in this forest irl seem to possess that as their only “gift” __________________ |
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You are probably right about giving myself a depressive episode. But this is the argument I give my therapist. I tell them that I don't feel this "cloud over my head for no reason" feeling. It's just that alot of sad things have happened to me and alot of my present life as well is very painful. So I cry. |
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To me the term "survivor" means I have come through experiences that should break or kill a normal person, and that I can do it again if needed. I survived. If you are still here against all odds it is a positive thing.
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To be a surviver means that you have been able to fight aganst what they once did to you. Such fight is very difficult. It's an honor to be called "survivor". It's an invisible "mark" that you have done work that not eveybody are able to do (the person in the street that never was abused). Depression is a diagnose. It is not a shame to have a diagnose. Survivor is not a diagnose, but a recognition by oneself that one has done an amount for work to overcome former hurts. One can can be depressed and be a survivor at the same time. I f you feel that there is still a lot of work to do with your depression before you have overcome the past well enough to live a somewhat good life, may be you can call yourself a depressed person still in work to become a survivor. My very best wishes for you! |
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