Confessions of little turtle with love #5

little turtle · Aug 03, 2020 at 06:57 AM

how do you like to be treated-------? FRIENDLY

Thirty shades · Aug 03, 2020 at 07:36 AM

I like to be treated in a kind way....

little turtle · Aug 03, 2020 at 09:02 AM

SOMEWHERE-----a time and place for us

Thirty shades · Aug 03, 2020 at 09:09 AM

If they all could just understand us.....

No judgement, just the real truth...

A world where everyone matters...

little turtle · Aug 03, 2020 at 09:57 AM

what do you think about this one----------------
POGO said "we have met the enemy...and he is us"

Thirty shades · Aug 03, 2020 at 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by little turtle

what do you think about this one----------------
POGO said "we have met the enemy...and he is us"

We are our own's worst enemy???

There may be some truth.
We may have been brought up in bad environment's without being taught how to be our own best friend...
It is not all there is to it.

Some people are not kind, this does not help us...

Mopey · Aug 03, 2020 at 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by little turtle

what do you think about this one----------------
POGO said "we have met the enemy...and he is us"

I love Pogo little turtle-remember Sarcophagus Macabre, the vulture?

But I don’t agree with him on this one. I think we spend far too much time blaming ourselves for everything as it is.

little turtle · Aug 03, 2020 at 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Mopey

I love Pogo little turtle-remember Sarcophagus Macabre, the vulture?

But I don’t agree with him on this one. I think we spend far too much time blaming ourselves for everything as it is.

mopey why do we keep blaming ourselves....i don't understand

Fuzzybear · Aug 03, 2020 at 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Thirty shades

If they all could just understand us.....

No judgement, just the real truth...

A world where everyone matters...

Good post dear Thirty shades

I am also unsure why we keep blaming ourselves...

I speculate that at least in part it is because “they” (family of origin and some others...) are.. sub optimal and were unable to accept a young cub as is

I wonder what Rohag has to say on this page of the bus. Rohag is very wise (as are others on the bus)

Fuzzybear · Aug 03, 2020 at 02:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

We are our own's worst enemy???

There may be some truth.
We may have been brought up in bad environment's without being taught how to be our own best friend...
It is not all there is to it.

Some people are not kind, this does not help us...

I agree with this

Mopey · Aug 03, 2020 at 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by little turtle

mopey why do we keep blaming ourselves....i don't understand

My guess, turtle, would be that when we tried to express ourselves as cubs we were given the impression that whatever the problem was, it was of our own making, not our tormentors. That is, there was something wrong with us or with our approach.

I can think of an example. When I was a young child walking home I was approached and made fun of by a gang of kids. I was very upset and rushed home to tell my mother. She responded with annoyance, "Oh, just let it roll off your back."

From this I understood that I was taking the whole thing too seriously and should not have been upset at all. IE, I was too sensitive.

little turtle · Aug 03, 2020 at 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Mopey

My guess, turtle, would be that when we tried to express ourselves as cubs we were given the impression that whatever the problem was, it was of our own making, not our tormentors. That is, there was something wrong with us or with our approach.

I can think of an example. When I was a young child walking home I was approached and made fun of by a gang of kids. I was very upset and rushed home to tell my mother. She responded with annoyance, "Oh, just let it roll off your back."

From this I understood that I was taking the whole thing too seriously and should not have been upset at all. IE, I was too sensitive.

thanks mopey

Rohag · Aug 03, 2020 at 05:28 PM

Pessimism. Any opinion I might offer here would be tainted by my own general and self-pessimism.

Everyone posting here has survived. Though painful, that survival is not to be dismissed.

Thirty shades · Aug 04, 2020 at 07:28 AM

I am not mental illness.

My body shouts its pain loud and clear with a great deal of grrrrrrrr. Then expresses itself with anxiety and depression to cope with all that is trapped inside.

My core self is in hiding.

She is lost and when I am ready I will try and find her.

We are good people.

Much love and respect to all on the As Is bus

little turtle · Aug 04, 2020 at 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Thirty shades

I am not mental illness.

My body shouts its pain loud and clear with a great deal of grrrrrrrr. Then expresses itself with anxiety and depression to cope with all that is trapped inside.

My core self is in hiding.

She is lost and when I am ready I will try and find her.

We are good people.

Much love and respect to all on the As Is bus

very important TS...how to deal with your own stuff...
you are working on it...i want to treat myself kindly...
i think that i need to practice the golden rule with me first...
love myself...love is patient...love is kind...i hope that we all can be FREE

little turtle · Aug 04, 2020 at 08:29 AM

i have a problem going into my spoiled baby routine....

Thirty shades · Aug 04, 2020 at 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by little turtle

very important TS...how to deal with your own stuff...
you are working on it...i want to treat myself kindly...
i think that i need to practice the golden rule with me first...
love myself...love is patient...love is kind...i hope that we all can be FREE

You deserve your own kindness Little Turtle.

My attempts to be kind and loving to me get blocked repeatedly.
I have success for a while,
and then fall back,

We are learning...

I am trying to get reprogrammed...

Mopey · Aug 04, 2020 at 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Thirty shades

My attempts to be kind and loving to me get blocked repeatedly.
I have success for a while,
and then fall back,

We are learning...

I am trying to get reprogrammed...

Anything fragile can be crushed so easily. It's 2 steps forward, 1 step back, or even 1 step forward, 2 steps back.

I'm trying to learn to treat my own fragile spirit with more kindness and understanding, rather than the consistent dislike and disapproval of the past.

I wish that for all here.

little turtle · Aug 05, 2020 at 09:49 AM

for me...i have a problem with panic fear...
and i never went to a therapist and worked it out...
i was going to work with a david carbonell from chicago..
but instead i took psych drugs...so the next time i meet mr TERROR..
i will probably think about my valium in the closet...

little turtle · Aug 06, 2020 at 04:46 PM

i am so afraid

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little turtle Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: ohio Posts: 4,045 9 6,758 hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 06:57 AM #361 how do you like to be treated-------? FRIENDLY

Thirty shades Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2018 Location: UK Posts: 4,799 (SuperPoster!) 5 16.2k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 07:36 AM #362 I like to be treated in a kind way....

little turtle Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: ohio Posts: 4,045 9 6,758 hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 09:02 AM #363 SOMEWHERE-----a time and place for us

Thirty shades Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2018 Location: UK Posts: 4,799 (SuperPoster!) 5 16.2k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 09:09 AM #364 If they all could just understand us..... No judgement, just the real truth... A world where everyone matters...

little turtle Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: ohio Posts: 4,045 9 6,758 hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 09:57 AM #365 what do you think about this one---------------- POGO said "we have met the enemy...and he is us"

Rohag Legendary Member Since Feb 2009 Posts: 10,019 15 15.2k hugs given	Aug 03, 2020 at 05:28 PM #373 Pessimism. Any opinion I might offer here would be tainted by my own general and self-pessimism. Everyone posting here has survived. Though painful, that survival is not to be dismissed. __________________ My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.

Thirty shades Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2018 Location: UK Posts: 4,799 (SuperPoster!) 5 16.2k hugs given	Aug 04, 2020 at 07:28 AM #374 I am not mental illness. My body shouts its pain loud and clear with a great deal of grrrrrrrr. Then expresses itself with anxiety and depression to cope with all that is trapped inside. My core self is in hiding. She is lost and when I am ready I will try and find her. We are good people. Much love and respect to all on the As Is bus

little turtle Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: ohio Posts: 4,045 9 6,758 hugs given	Aug 04, 2020 at 08:29 AM #376 i have a problem going into my spoiled baby routine....

little turtle Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: ohio Posts: 4,045 9 6,758 hugs given	Aug 05, 2020 at 09:49 AM #379 for me...i have a problem with panic fear... and i never went to a therapist and worked it out... i was going to work with a david carbonell from chicago.. but instead i took psych drugs...so the next time i meet mr TERROR.. i will probably think about my valium in the closet...

little turtle Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: ohio Posts: 4,045 9 6,758 hugs given	Aug 06, 2020 at 04:46 PM #380 i am so afraid