What can you change about your social support?

puzzclar · Jul 02, 2020 at 07:42 AM

I'm looking for ideas on how to improve. And I thought we all could use a place to explore what changes may help us, and provide hope.

I want to start with making phone calls and saying I'm NOT a burden. The other person answered, therefore they can tell me to call later. I want to share some things I'm learning and get there experience to support my learning. And I want to ask for help, and not feel guilty for asking.

What about you?

Breaking Dawn · Jul 02, 2020 at 08:29 AM

Hi, puzzclar, I always want to improve myself. What you're thinking of doing seems like a brave thing to do. I generally avoid making phone calls. In fact, I avoid people as much as possible because I feel so uncomfortable, & actually nervous. I guess that's social anxiety. I may appear very calm, so people probably just think I'm reserved. But inside I'm planning my getaway. When I finally escape I feel so relieved & my positive mood is free to be. I have been learning how to socialize better by interacting with you guys here at PC.

bpcyclist · Jul 02, 2020 at 09:09 AM

I could use more people IRL.

Jul 02, 2020 at 09:19 AM

all I can really do is keep reaching out and hope someone actually gets me

and keep changing therapists until I find one that works

not too much I can do. just hope for the best

will19 · Jul 02, 2020 at 10:47 PM

I'm clueless.

Train of Thought · Jul 03, 2020 at 07:21 AM

Hi @puzzclar great idea for a thread. Thank you.
It's a big step to change our thinking patterns. Wish you all the best.
Like @Breaking Dawn and yourself I am also struggling more and more with phone calls.
The feeling of burdening the recipient is just... stressing me out so much. At times I am so stressed out that my brain feels foggy.
Procrastinating important phone calls until the bitter end became my new hobby -.-

Train of Thought · Jul 03, 2020 at 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by bpcyclist

I could use more people IRL.

Hope you'll find some nice folks in your area. As @raging vortex writes... we gonna keep reaching out. Although I have to admit... reaching out all the time saps my energy away so fast🙈

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Originally Posted by raging vortex

all I can really do is keep reaching out and hope someone actually gets me

and keep changing therapists until I find one that works

not too much I can do. just hope for the best

Good luck with finding a new therapists. You are very strong to keep going and it's very uplifting. Thanks!

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Originally Posted by will19

I'm clueless.

Sorry you feel this way. Hope you'll find a way.

Fuzzybear · Jul 07, 2020 at 05:53 PM

More people irl (maybe)

Jul 07, 2020 at 06:19 PM

If it weren't for the pandemic, participate in more Meetup groups to help me foster new friendships with people who actually *want* to be friends with me.

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bpcyclist Legendary Member Since Sep 2019 Location: Portland Posts: 12,681 (SuperPoster!) 4 40.2k hugs given	Jul 02, 2020 at 09:09 AM #3 I could use more people IRL. __________________ When I was a kid, my parents moved a lot, but I always found them--Rodney Dangerfield
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