First time group therapy

First time group therapy. I walked out in the middle of it. Had to take a break and then I came back.
I just feel useless. I didn't expect I would react like this. I've tried tons of therapy before.
I know we talked about an issue that is hard for me to talk about or listen to. And it was hard to listen to the other people's problems. I was just reminded of my own.
I've been doing pretty good, had a routine with working out etc. And now this.
I don't think it's right for me.
Another thing about it was there is no structure to the sessions. People just talk casually about what they want. I don't really like it.

I'm just a bit stressed. Have to move on friday so I'm living in boxes right now. There's so much...

Yeah, been in _8 katrillion groups. Group isn't for everyone.

Good luck with your move!!!!

Good to hear from you, Mat. As Bp says, groups are not for everyone even though they work well for some, just as AA works for a lot of alcoholics but not all.

I also am a veteran of many groups and had to find over the years what I was comfortable expressing and what I was not. Sometimes it's good to just sit back and listen to the others for awhile, though you indicated that might be bothersome too. One thing it shows you, though, is you're not the only one walking around who is not blissfully happy 100% of the time.

Glad to hear you're back at the gym! Ours haven't opened up yet over here, and my husband, who belongs to one and likes to work out, is really missing it. It's very true that you have to find the things that work for you, and as I recall working out was helpful to you before.

Moving is such a hassle! Good luck with yours. I hope it will prove a positive change in the end.

Don't be a stranger....

How are you Mopey? I hope you are well.
I’m not sure about the group thing. It really knocked me out.

Yes moving is a hassle. I did it today. Now I’m in a new city. I had been living in Copenhagen for about 12-13 years in total. Yikes! This is a bit of a leap. Feeling very anxious about it.
Have you moved to a whole bew place before? Maybe even a new state? How long have you been living in California?
I don’t me being this stressed and anxious with my other moves in the past. Probably has to do with how I’m feeling at the moment and my life situation.
I just wish for good things to come my way finally..

All the best

I’ve been in groups before. I just didn’t feel good about this one - having no structure and so on..

Thanks, I moved today.

Might be that the facilitator is just too hands-off. I ran a group in a maximum-security state hospital for 3 years by myself. It was tough!!! Sick people. Hard for them to be aware of and practice group etiquette and stuff. So, running groups can be hard.

Hello there Mat.

Thanks for asking, but actually I could be better. A week ago I rode my bike for the first time in a couple of years, didn't feel particularly well balanced, and proceeded to strike the concrete curb and throw myself off onto my back, injuring it rather painfully. Luckily didn't break anything, but my soft tissues are not happy. After I finish sending this off to you I'm going to climb back into bed with an ice pack....

Could you identify what about the group experience was so devastating? Do you think it might have been the lack of structure? Personally I like to have quite a bit of structure in a group situation, otherwise I get anxious, not knowing what's expected of me or what I'm supposed to do.

Yes, I've done my share of moving, but not to many other states. The only other state I've lived in is Arizona, for a short time while my father was teaching there. I was born in California not far from where I live now. I can tell you that I'm not a great fan of moving. I have incredible anxieties around it. What does help is just being in your new place for awhile, learning your way around, learning where things are. Like the nearest gym! I do hope that eventually you'll find yourself happier in your new place than you were in Copenhagen.

I also hope and pray that good things will finally come your way, and that when they do you will find them worth waiting for