what does it actually mean? I do not get it?

I have not been able to read here in this forum as much as I used to. I appreciate all that is shared here.

I have one question. Something I do not understand, as I do not think I have ever experienced myself or others, or labelled myself or others, in those terms.

No response is required, but if a response is given, I request kindly that it is somewhat psychologically ''mindful'' and not just labels etc... or a one liner question.

(unless maybe you are one of the few who nearly always reply to my posts in this forum, I welcome any response from you

I do not understand or agree with the concept of labelling a person as ''a failure''...

I think the only ''complete'' ''failure'' is a complete refusal to even try anything at all.

Obviously, I am not wanting a semantic discussion re the ''difference'' between ''success'' and ''failure''.... I am well able to read and comprehend dictionary definitions and am familiar with the ''normal'' ''definitions'' of ''success''

That ''trying something'' could be as simple as making one kind and maybe well thought out response to someone on a forum, or flossing our teeth on a very bad day (just one example)

much respect and kind thoughts to all

maybe people are stressed out...i am fuzzy

The only failure is not suiting up and showing up.

I am sorry that you have been given that label "failure" dear Fuzzybear.

It is not true.
The grrrr makes us feel it is sometimes.

Our inner cub feels a failure but that is not true.
Time has ground our cubs down and they feel how they have been treated.

Our cubs need to learn from us.

Sending much respect and kindness to you and your cub.

i keep having thoughts that i have failed miserably...big mistakes..

so i practice mindfulness...i have to learn to keep accepting the thoughts...
but not spending too much time there...the experts say that helps...
i still have trouble with it but i hope to learn....
i have been able to distance myself some from psychiatry....even tho i made a mistake...
this sounds like crap but its the best i can do...i am learning at age 88

I agree with the "try something" approach. One tiny step is considered a success. Not measured by any kind of immediate change in big things. Just the fact that I took a self-directed action is enough. I pat myself on the back for those each night.
Also, it is crucial for me not to allow external views of my steps to define success. I let others define my worth, value, and "failure" for so long I lost my own viewpoint. Now I decide for myself because I have the self respect I've worked hard to achieve--largely by just trying something different!

Both the nature of my experience of depression and my medication regime cushion me from some of the silent and not-so-silent derision of those who view me a "failure". That does not mean I feel nothing of the sting. And, I judge myself.

It is far simpler to dissociate those who deride me than dissociate myself.

Too often, even in the absence of deriders, I encounter my own judgments of myself in imagined conversations with people from my past.