advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Anonymous32451
Guest
Anonymous32451 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Sep 05, 2020 at 09:10 AM
  #1
does anyone else see themselves as boring

I think one of the reasons (one out of many reasons), why I don't have any friends, is because I don't really have much to offer to the friendship

I mean: no one wants to know I am eating potato chips, no one wants to know I'm bouncing on the bed, no one wants to know about what's in my drink cup, I generally feel I'm boring

people these days want to know about work. interesting/ fun experiences. have a laugh. they don't want to know about how many chicken nuggets are in my nuggets box..
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Deilla, Fuzzybear, Kriss, Littlepalm, tigerlily84, Train of Thought, unaluna

advertisement
Littlepalm
Member
Littlepalm has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jun 2019
Location: Northeast
Posts: 36
3 yr Member
51 hugs
given
Arrow Sep 05, 2020 at 09:20 AM
  #2
Hi-

I. Myself as boring....I love to bi he watch tv...love to read....I walk my dog...have one friend...am depressed...

My ex thought I was “boring” because I did not want to do the things he wanted...which were boring to me....I informed him that I find him BORING.

HUGS

little palm
Littlepalm is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Anonymous32451, Deilla, Fuzzybear, Train of Thought, unaluna
Anonymous32451
Guest
Anonymous32451 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Sep 05, 2020 at 09:23 AM
  #3
Quote:
Originally Posted by Littlepalm View Post
Hi-

I. Myself as boring....I love to bi he watch tv...love to read....I walk my dog...have one friend...am depressed...

My ex thought I was “boring” because I did not want to do the things he wanted...which were boring to me....I informed him that I find him BORING.

HUGS

little palm


what kind of dog do you have

as a child I had a yorkie

sooo cute!.

I don't own a pet now though (I am not in a state to look after one), but if I was, would defenetly get another
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Deilla, Littlepalm
will19
Grand Magnate
 
will19's Avatar
will19 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2012
Posts: 3,612
10 yr Member
1,097 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 05, 2020 at 04:17 PM
  #4
I think that I could very well be boring. It seems like I don't have as long conversations with people as others do. Life, lately, has been pretty boring for me. I had recently posted a thread called "So Much Sameness" in the Coping With Emotions forum; so that should explain it, I guess.

However, I feel like I'm not very well liked. I don't know why. So many seem to give me the silent treatment. I don't know what I could have done to set them off. This is especially true with my neighbors. It seems like the people like me much better at my job than at where I live.
will19 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Deilla, Littlepalm, RoxanneToto, Train of Thought, unaluna
Deilla
Legendary Wise Elder
 
Deilla's Avatar
Deilla is napping.
 
Member Since: Oct 2017
Location: Limsa Lominsa
Posts: 29,398 (SuperPoster!)
5 yr Member
49.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 06, 2020 at 01:37 AM
  #5
For myself, I feel like it depends on the people I'm interacting with. If we have nothing in common then I'm sure I seem boring. But if we can strike up a conversation about interests, then I feel like I'm social. Sometimes I feel boring when the other person talks about going to all kinds of places. It's difficult to have a conversation because I mainly stay at home. So I guess it just depends.

__________________
‘Live for now,’

‘This too shall pass,’

‘Everything is happening for my good.’
Deilla is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Littlepalm
Anonymous32451
Guest
Anonymous32451 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Sep 06, 2020 at 04:35 AM
  #6
Quote:
Originally Posted by will19 View Post
I think that I could very well be boring. It seems like I don't have as long conversations with people as others do. Life, lately, has been pretty boring for me. I had recently posted a thread called "So Much Sameness" in the Coping With Emotions forum; so that should explain it, I guess.

However, I feel like I'm not very well liked. I don't know why. So many seem to give me the silent treatment. I don't know what I could have done to set them off. This is especially true with my neighbors. It seems like the people like me much better at my job than at where I live.


thank you for posting this.

I have this issue too. not so much, " the silent treatment", but when I'm around their is a lot of whispering about me, and also their is a lot of uneasyness

a lot of times too, when I have tried to join in a conversation (like asking about an event or something), I am simply shut down by being told oh, well, it's nothing really- well it is, because you were just talking about it.

I don't know.. maybe I really am hated by people
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Littlepalm
Littlepalm
Member
Littlepalm has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jun 2019
Location: Northeast
Posts: 36
3 yr Member
51 hugs
given
Default Sep 06, 2020 at 08:53 AM
  #7
I have a chow chow...she is very sweet. I love her.
Littlepalm is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Anonymous32451
RoxanneToto
Grand Poohbah
RoxanneToto has no updates.
 
Member Since: Aug 2020
Location: England
Posts: 1,692
3 yr Member
6,991 hugs
given
Default Sep 06, 2020 at 10:46 AM
  #8
I’ve been told by plenty of people that I’m boring, both when I was trying to be social and minding my own business where they just happened to be hanging out.
Sometimes it has bothered me, the feeling I have little to offer in a friendship I mean, but generally I think it’s actually kind of rude to tell others they’re boring, when there’s no opinion being sought (or offered lol). It’s a lot easier to feel social/not boring if you can find someone with a lot of similar interests - even better if they have others and you get curious enough to ask about them!
I’ve definitely been through the whispering/being shut out of conversations thing, it’s so nasty and even kind of childish to do.
RoxanneToto is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Anonymous32451
tigerlily84
Poohbah
 
tigerlily84's Avatar
tigerlily84 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Aug 2012
Location: Over there
Posts: 1,320
10 yr Member
3,546 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 06, 2020 at 05:49 PM
  #9
Yes, all the time. But I don't care anymore. I probably am and I try not to let it bother me. I'm not always successful. I find it difficult to get out of my rut and try to talk to people because it's so exhausting. So I go back to netflix and taking care of my dog.
tigerlily84 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Pflaumenkeks
Member
Pflaumenkeks has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2015
Location: germany
Posts: 159
8 yr Member
59 hugs
given
Default Sep 16, 2020 at 04:12 AM
  #10
I feel more secure in group setting, since I'm not on the spot and can let other people talk. Also, when I'm feeling insecure, I tend to just ask the other person a lot of follow up questions. Most of the time they're glad to talk about themselves.
Pflaumenkeks is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
quietlylost
Member
quietlylost has no updates.
 
Member Since: Mar 2020
Location: Michigan
Posts: 126
3 yr Member
1 hugs
given
Default Sep 16, 2020 at 06:37 AM
  #11
I think it's really easy for us to do some "mind reading" and assume what people think about us just because we don't feel good about ourselves. It's likely that people don't actually find you boring. That being said, sometimes what we believe about ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In past relationships or friendships I've often hid parts of myself or not spoken up because I found myself to be boring or uninteresting. Ultimately that had a negative impact because the other person wanted to get to know me but because I felt so little of myself I didn't take the risk to open up.

If you still feel uninteresting, take time to take an inventory of what things you are interested in. What are some of the experiences you've had in your life? What are some things you want for the future? What are some questions that you'd like to ask others, and can you answer those questions yourself?

Conversations and friendships take practice. The more we become comfortable sharing ourselves the easier it is for them to last, and the easier it is for us to see that we are worthwhile, that we matter, and that we have something to offer. I hope you find ways to feel more confident about who you are.
quietlylost is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear
 
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, Innerzone
Fuzzybear
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,298 (SuperPoster!)
20 yr Member
81.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 16, 2020 at 07:31 AM
  #12
Quote:
Originally Posted by quietlylost View Post
I think it's really easy for us to do some "mind reading" and assume what people think about us just because we don't feel good about ourselves. It's likely that people don't actually find you boring. That being said, sometimes what we believe about ourselves becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In past relationships or friendships I've often hid parts of myself or not spoken up because I found myself to be boring or uninteresting. Ultimately that had a negative impact because the other person wanted to get to know me but because I felt so little of myself I didn't take the risk to open up.

If you still feel uninteresting, take time to take an inventory of what things you are interested in. What are some of the experiences you've had in your life? What are some things you want for the future? What are some questions that you'd like to ask others, and can you answer those questions yourself?

Conversations and friendships take practice. The more we become comfortable sharing ourselves the easier it is for them to last, and the easier it is for us to see that we are worthwhile, that we matter, and that we have something to offer. I hope you find ways to feel more confident about who you are.

__________________
Fuzzybear is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Thanks for this!
quietlylost
Kriss
Member
 
Kriss's Avatar
Kriss has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2020
Location: Sri lanka
Posts: 44
3 yr Member
109 hugs
given
Default Sep 16, 2020 at 10:02 AM
  #13
Well I think I'm boring too. I use humour all the time to make others laugh but seems like they weren't really funny.

__________________
If you have been brutally broken but still have the courage to be gentle to other living beings , then you are a badass with a heart of an angel. ---Keanu Reeves
Kriss is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear
Fuzzybear
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,298 (SuperPoster!)
20 yr Member
81.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Sep 16, 2020 at 03:01 PM
  #14
Quote:
Originally Posted by Kriss View Post
Well I think I'm boring too. I use humour all the time to make others laugh but seems like they weren't really funny.
I'm sure some people would appreciate your jokes I sometimes don't appreciate jokes that to me are... well not funny. But a few do not like my Grrrrr jokes (lol) ;p

__________________
Fuzzybear is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Kriss
 
Thanks for this!
Kriss
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 07:01 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.