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Old 10-18-2020, 12:02 AM   #11
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You're right, AnnoyedGrunt (love the name). I think that could very well be what was going on with my sister in this case.

That's funny -I have a different picture in my mind of what's happening in America. I always think people are getting kinder and less ignorant. But since the internet has exposed how bad things are everything just seems worse..

Maybe the country/world will be better after all this is over. It's always darkest before dawn....I love that quote.
Y'all are making me feel better, thanks
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Old 10-18-2020, 06:18 PM   #12
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Well I was drawn to your post in part because I have deep political and religious disagreements with my sister as well. We usually don't argue much at family gatherings but that's because I'm often grinding my teeth to the gums. I also don't want to traumatize my nieces by arguing with her all the time.
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Old 10-21-2020, 02:16 PM   #13
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Hi. Something I've been doing for socializing during this time of social distancing is playing party games over Google Meet. I mostly play Jackbox games. These are super fun, interactive games that you don't have to be into video games to play. A lot of the games involve trivia or drawing. I run the games from my laptop and then screen share it over Google Meet. I rejoined up with Facebook and friended a ton of people I haven't talked to since probably high school. I'll invite anyone to the games. The more people you invite and the more often you invite them, the more likely you'll get someone to come. I use Facebook events for the invitations and sometimes Google calender events for people not on Facebook. It's a good time. I promote the games pretty hard on Facebook. I message people to tell them about it. I'm going to try live streaming my next gaming session and see if that gets more people interested. Anyhow, these online games have been the primary source of socializing for me during the pandemic. You could try organizing something like that. It's great because you can reconnect with people you haven't seen in a long time and play games with people in other states, maybe even other countries. Drinking while playing the games makes it feel just like a party, but I'm actually trying to cut out the drinking. I just mention that if you are into that. This is a way that maybe you could take control of your social life and socialize with people again, if you are up for trying something new.
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That sounds like a lot of fun, Singularity. I'm not much into playing games online but you made it sound tempting....And I used to drink a lot, til I became an alcoholic. So no more of that

AnnoyedGrunt, the thing that makes this so hard for me is that I have a family that loves me, so I was expecting them to be more empathetic when I turned to them.

It seems a lot of religious people wind up being the only ones who can speak their minds when it comes to politics and religion. They can get so harsh towards anyone with a different opinion, like they think it's a sin to disagree.
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The social isolation can be very difficult. COVID has been a pain for those who are considered essential too. I, regretfully, am in a position where I see things from different views. The families that are struggling, the individuals who have no family and only have paid professionals coming into their homes. It's so sad.

I think one limiting belief that has happened around mental illness is that meds and therapy are the best combination for getting through this crap of mental issues. I have tried far too many meds that have worked then failed, or failed and made things worse. In the last few weeks, I discovered that the mental health system is broken!!! There is far too much stigma for all Involved! Many of us put faith in meds, and then we miss what anxiety, fear, and other emotions are trying to help us make the best life for ourselves. What if we change and have compassion for ourselves and then look into why and what we need to do to release the troubling emotions.

Anxiety tells us something is wrong, and some of us turn to meds and we then don't learn what anxiety is communicating to us. Behavior got us into this mess of being labeled mentally unhealthy. Why is it that meds and therapy have to be the only solution?

Of course this is my view. And I'm making the changes to work through instead of push away the labeled feelings of negativity.

Part of this is a rant,bit it seems to fit. I don't mean to create contention or any other thing. Just simply stating my view.
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Vent away. There needs to be places for struggling people to express themselves without judgment. I benefitted from prozac and therapy, but I also had a couple sessions with therapists who were more damaging than helpful, and wasted my money..
I do hate how a person might be diagnosed with a disorder, when the environment that person is living in isn't taken into consideration. A lot of people who are anxious and feel off balance emotionally, might be getting abused at home, school, work, or somewhere. They might have a nutritional deficiency or hormone problems.
I think a major reason for my depression, as well as other's, is that we live in a fairly selfish society. When I went to a suicide forum a while back, general selfishness of people was the most common complaint of the members on the forum.
A lot of people would heal right up if they were surrounded by healthy, kind hearted people for a while.
Thanks for the replies, everyone. .
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The social isolation can be very difficult. COVID has been a pain for those who are considered essential too. I, regretfully, am in a position where I see things from different views. The families that are struggling, the individuals who have no family and only have paid professionals coming into their homes. It's so sad.

I think one limiting belief that has happened around mental illness is that meds and therapy are the best combination for getting through this crap of mental issues. I have tried far too many meds that have worked then failed, or failed and made things worse. In the last few weeks, I discovered that the mental health system is broken!!! There is far too much stigma for all Involved! Many of us put faith in meds, and then we miss what anxiety, fear, and other emotions are trying to help us make the best life for ourselves. What if we change and have compassion for ourselves and then look into why and what we need to do to release the troubling emotions.

Anxiety tells us something is wrong, and some of us turn to meds and we then don't learn what anxiety is communicating to us. Behavior got us into this mess of being labeled mentally unhealthy. Why is it that meds and therapy have to be the only solution?

Of course this is my view. And I'm making the changes to work through instead of push away the labeled feelings of negativity.

Part of this is a rant,bit it seems to fit. I don't mean to create contention or any other thing. Just simply stating my view.
I just donít understand why people canít see that the brain can malfunction just like any other organ. We need better treatments for mental health issues.
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