[Stella_Blue]

I ask this question b/c I'm wondering about my b/f who has been previously diagnosed with schiz by one psych and told he wasn't by another. He briefly tried meds but quit them when he thought they made him not want to play music. That was about 3 years ago. I've been back and forth about whether or not his schiz and was leaning towards NOT, but lately I'm not sure.

Now I'm wondering if maybe he has a couple of different people inside of him. I spent a week from hell with him when I flew across country last week to visit. We hadn't seen each other in two months. Most of the visit he was verbally abusive, questioned everything I did, put me down, called me names. Then he'd be all loving at night (not sexually, just loving). He'd wake in the morning and kiss me. Later in the day he'd be back to his mean self. The last day I was there was the worst. He wasn't loving at night. He was actually kind of cold towards me.

I started thinking back on conversations. When he'd say, "Hey. What's going on?" in a somewhat confrontational or aggressive voice, I knew the conversation wouldn't go well. Other times, he'd say my name and have a sweet voice. We could talk easily and there were no abuses. I was ready to close, rather SLAM, the door on this one as when he dropped me at the airport I was completely beaten down emotionally, so much so that I was physically wrecked as well. I wrote pages on the plane about how this felt for me and how I would never go back. Then he called and was acting like things weren't so bad. I just wanted to say, "Weren't you there???" I avoided talking to him until the next day after I got home and just let him leave a message on my vm. There was that sweet voice again, saying my name (which he doesn't when he's being nasty...I'm just "hey"). His voice was clearly softer and pleasant. I answered the phone this morning and again he was sweet and pleasant and we talked more than we have in awhile. He was wonderful.

He doesn't have different names for these two clearly different people, nor would he even admit to the existence of two different personalities, but I have cause to believe they exist. He was abused as a child by some neighbor kids and I'm wondering if he didn't adopt this nasty aggressive personality to protect the nice, sensitive part of him.

I know this is long, but I wanted to be thorough. He needs help, but how do you get him to seek it if he thinks nothing is wrong? Should I tell the "bad" voice when it comes around that I won't talk to him and to release the good one? I don't know what to do.

[Rhapsody]

IMO - this does not sound like DID but rather that of a person who is suffering from Schizophrenia (as you have stated) and possibly depression........ What does his T say?

[Stella_Blue]

Thanks Rhapsody. That's more what I thought. I just wanted to check all angles. He doesn't have a therapist. He doesn't think anything is wrong with him.

[Rhapsody]

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Stella_Blue said:
He doesn't have a therapist. He doesn't think anything is wrong with him.

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He seems to be in the same boat as a lot of other people...... they need to see a T but in their minds they are just fine, this is where a good friend can play an important part in getting him help.

Thanks for Caring for your Friend. ((( hugs )))