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My mother keeps reminiscing about when I was a kid up through high school and I barely have any fragments of memories of those times. Here’s a 70 year old person who is forgetful remembering tons of things with details and names from eons ago.
I feel defective. Don’t get me totally wrong, every now and then I would get a snippet of a visual memory for a second or a “hey I know that” then gone again. A lot of these multiples on Facebook groups have really good memories it seems like they know all their alters names, places, inner world construction, their past....and I lucky to remember this morning. Just saying...this is just how I think (or lack of I suppose)- this is our normal. |
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((((AlwaysChanging2)))) I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's not your fault, though... but yes, I understand your frustration.
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It's not a good feeling, is it. I don't like to come face to face with our lack of memory like that. We avoid it as much as possible (by not being with people - ha!)
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I’m just grateful that every bad moment quickly isolates and fades away in our mind. The lack of memory part doesn’t really bother me, it’s hearing the stories of like it was us doing these things that she talks of....the disconnect, the unbelievable based on how we feel.... It’s not an all the time thing, I guess that she can see that it makes us uncomfortable....how bad it bothers us (she now knows about our multiplicity). It all just ties in with the low self-esteem. It’s so scary hearing about the past when so comfortable in the present not remembering. |
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Seeking support is an important first step, and you are not alone
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I don't know what specific fb group you're referring to because i don't use that site. But i just mean in general. For myself i try to never compare my life or my experiences to others. Different doesn't mean wrong, or bad, or worse, for myself or anyone else. I hope you feel better soon! |
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It wasn't until I was in therapy and diagnosed with DID that the whole lack of memories thing bothered me.I guess ignorance is bliss sometimes.
Before knowing,I guess i didn't really think twice about it.It was normal to not remember things.Not just the pst but things that were going on in the present.Like I went to a baby shower and afterwards my mom was telling me things I said and did while I was there and I didnt question it at all or even womder why she(or other people) would do that to begin with.I didn't know any different and that's just how life had always been for me. But yeah,when you do know what your issue is,that it's DID,it's a whole different ballgame isn't it? Hugs |
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I still feel all those things now after full integration.Just knowing that's what was going on with me my whole life without even having awareness of it is still pretty humiliating tbh.And it's still hard to wrap my head around at times. |
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