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Old 04-08-2019, 09:48 AM #1
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Default yesterday we saw the police

yesterday we had some police come to our area where we live and take someone away in the back of their car.

the littles in our system are confused, and don't fully understand what they saw (and feel very shaken), and us grownups feel that we might have to talk to the police and give them statements, after all, we saw everything and how it all unfolded

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now the girl is shaken and says she doesn't want to talk to the police in fear that she'll get in to trouble

which means they might come back in search of witnesses (including ourselves) to ask what actually happened.

how can we describe to the littles what's going on so they can understand without hurting them, and if they ask us to say anything do we have a right to refuse?

it would feel wrong, because we saw it all, but we're shaken by it too

we're not even sure if they are going to come back
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yesterday we had some police come to our area where we live and take someone away in the back of their car.

the littles in our system are confused, and don't fully understand what they saw (and feel very shaken), and us grownups feel that we might have to talk to the police and give them statements, after all, we saw everything and how it all unfolded

Possible trigger:


now the girl is shaken and says she doesn't want to talk to the police in fear that she'll get in to trouble

which means they might come back in search of witnesses (including ourselves) to ask what actually happened.

how can we describe to the littles what's going on so they can understand without hurting them, and if they ask us to say anything do we have a right to refuse?

it would feel wrong, because we saw it all, but we're shaken by it too

we're not even sure if they are going to come back
I am sorry your littles are having a problem with this. maybe since you know about your littles and they communicate with you how they are feeling, you can explain to them that everything is ok and what happened and why the police had to be there in your neighborhood to keep everyone safe.

even if you dont share a lot of co consciousness with them talking inside to them will help. my treatment provider explained something to me one time when I didnt know how to help Rainy feel better I didnt have a lot of co consciousness with my alters but with a rare few I could sometimes know what they were feeling.

my treatment provider called this part of the integration process where my brain was allowing some things to come into my awareness like how the alters were feeling. once you reach this point in healing things "filter" through to each other. all I needed to do was think / talk inside and the alter in question would be able to hear and understand. normally people with DID do have this "filtering/ integration process" other wise the brain wouldnt be switching a person from their aware state of being to their dissociative flight or fight response and switch over to the alters.

my point is when ever my brain did its normal flight or fight / dissociate process that caused me to be able to hear and feel what my alters were doing it works both ways other wise they, the alters would not know when they need to be in control or not. if the alters were upset then all I needed to do was stay calm and talk either aloud or inside about how I am an adult now and that everything is ok and explain the situation.

At first I was a bit leary of this idea but then I realized my treatment provider was right, if nothing was filtering through how did the alters know when to take control, how did the alters know that something triggering was happening if nothing was filtering through to them.

I started talking inside and aloud to Rainy and it calmed things down.
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Ugh it can be really triggering to witness things like that aye. There is a family in my street that has a lot of domestic violence happening and the police are often called. It triggers up so much stuff for us, every time we hear the voices start to raise we go straight into trauma mode. Brings back so many bad memories.
I think in this case you will probably be okay, normally police don't ask for witnesses when a victim doesn't want to go ahead and press charges because its too hard to prosecute a DV case when the victim won't cooperate. In all the times we have seen people arrested from our neighbors home police have only once talked to us. and that was because the call to police came from us (one of the woman had sneaked out of the house and asked us to call them for her).

That was a really awful thing for you to witness though and its understandable that your littles upset. Can your adults talk to them and explain what happened?
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Ugh it can be really triggering to witness things like that aye. There is a family in my street that has a lot of domestic violence happening and the police are often called. It triggers up so much stuff for us, every time we hear the voices start to raise we go straight into trauma mode. Brings back so many bad memories.
I think in this case you will probably be okay, normally police don't ask for witnesses when a victim doesn't want to go ahead and press charges because its too hard to prosecute a DV case when the victim won't cooperate. In all the times we have seen people arrested from our neighbors home police have only once talked to us. and that was because the call to police came from us (one of the woman had sneaked out of the house and asked us to call them for her).

That was a really awful thing for you to witness though and its understandable that your littles upset. Can your adults talk to them and explain what happened?


I often forget that police are often just their doing their job

but I end up triggered before I can think about that

I don't like the police
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