Moving

So we're hopefully moving away from home this summer, getting our own place. And most everyone is on board and excited for it. But the kids are kinda nervous. How do you help littles with this kinda change?

Because in truth, I am that monster.
We are an awkward little system that obsesses over things. We are Sam, Beyond, Stacy, Kevin, Kitty, Shannon,Link, Peyita, Stephen, Nicole, Damon, Pumpkin, Illonor, Daran,LIly. Feel free to send random cute things.

Congrats on the possible move, rise13eyond... I don't have any solid suggestions for the littles. Moving can be so stressful no matter what the circumstance, so I am happy to see you are thinking ahead.

FearLess47

question.... how have you managed your whole life time dealing with changes like this or similar to this?

examples ...

a person normally does have moving changes in their life if their parents rented instead of owned their homes.

A person normally does have moving around changes when they are in elementary, jr high and high school (unless you are old enough to have been lucky to be raised in a kindergarten through 12th grade in one building kind of school building)

A person normally does have moving changes in their life even in k through 12th grade school building if the school was the kind where the students had more than one teacher and they moved from classroom to classroom to attend their classes and a "home room" check in attendance time.

a person normally does experience moving when they go camping or vacations or family trips or other activities that require packing and going somewhere else for over night, a few days weeks or months...

a person normally has to deal with major changes like going to friends and relatives homes, going shopping and such....

my point is they all take the same skills needed for when you are an adult moving out of the family home of raising to a persons own place.

my own treatment provider asked me this same question once and told me the same as I have wrote...

the reason she asked me this question and pointed out these to me is because dissociative type alters dont just happen one day out of the blue, they are there ones whole life time from very early childhood. so to figure out how to handle something today as an adult all one has to do is look back on their whole life time and see how this same situation was handled through out a persons life time.

example if I could handle moving for a few days to a week to go camping then I and my system would be ok mobing from home to home. if I when I was young had gone on family trips where packing was done then going somewhere else to stay for a while was handled then I would be able to pack my things and move to another home with no problems at all.

then my treatment provider explained something else to me... in order for the alters to be triggered, I had to be triggered/ dissociating (flight or fight normal brain activity that is the dissociative process that I posted about in my integration thread)

example in order for rainy to be upset and such about moving there had to be triggers associated to what her sense of agency was (rain storms) then I would enter the automatic flight or fight response which caused my brain to switch over to that of the alters.

as long as I was ok with the move and handling things ok and not triggered then the normal brain process would not happen there fore the alters would not be getting triggered because the brain would not be sending the triggering information to be processed to that of the alters....hard to understand this unless you have read my integration thread on how and what dissociation/ alter creations and so on is....

my point is as long as I was ok with the moves through out my lifetime then my alters were too and there was nothing to do. and if the alters were not ok well they were who and what they were (sense of agency) and nothing I did could change that so I just took care of myself and my own triggers which in turn took care of them...

my suggestion is sit down and think about what triggers you about this move, then take care of that. that in turn will keep your internal ones from being triggered...because you will not be dissociating and your brain wont be sending out the flight or fight dissociate response.