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******** Trigger Warning, talk of sexual abuse*****One of my child alters said My Mommy touched me two nights ago. It was out of the blue. I was actually thinking that my head felt weird. Then it popped out. Me and my T were talking about how she shouldnt have put that in my head about a year ago the day before that popped out. So would you trust a child alter that said that?
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Maybe instead of deciding whether to believe them or not believe them you could try to communicate with the alter to get more of a dialogue going.
I know from my own therapy my T(s) have always said it is completely unproductive to focus on whether or not alters are telling the exact truth of what happened to them. It can never be known (or rarely, if there is external verification) so there is nothing at all to be gained from trying to judge it except misery. What IS important is to develop communication between alters and self-compassion. |
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Yeah, unforunately I dont have good communication with the alters. Occasionally they will argue. I just thanked them for telling me and told them if they had anything else to say I would be glad to hear it.
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I'd listen, as is I would also make sure you all wasn't into a movie or book with the same suggestive information
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Because children's brains are still developing, they may perceive things differently than us adults. With DID, our parts are often different ages with different personalities, so they will also likely perceive things differently than us, the host persons. Just because perceptions are different, however, it doesn't mean that anyone is lying or untrustworthy. It simply means that they see it from a different angle than we do. And, sometimes our alters dissociate themselves. For those who don't have DID, they recall things in accordance with the age they experience trauma, and they sometimes "fill in the blanks" with things that don't make sense as adults retrospectively looking back but did make sense to their younger self that experienced it. --This may be a lot to absorb, but it is helpful for your understanding your different parts and different perceptions, as well as being willing to communicate with them and believe them or at least the pain they are expressing, whether it be through memories, words, dreams, or nightmares. Our parts are telling us their pain, and it is good to hear them, comfort them and yourself, and share these things with a trustworthy therapist who is competent and trained to help you and your alters.
I'm sure your therapist or some other literature out there regarding autobiographical memory, traumatic memory, cognition, and development can help you with some of the more scientific answers to this, which remain debatable and somewhat controversial. For your peace of mind, however, it is enough to know existentially what it is you're feeling, perceiving, and experiencing within yourself (or in this case, your selves), and to accept all parts of yourself in a kind, caring way. I hope this helps. |
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So my therapist suggested I ask my littles more about them saying Mommy touched me. I say them because I'm not sure which one it is, I did. They said I dont want those little babies to be touched. You run run. Little baby do sit ups on back and little babies dont know better. I know I didn't put these thoughts(the chatter) in my head but is it possible that I unintentionally did? The reason I ask is because I dont trust my communication is from alters and not just me talking back and forth to myself. They do speak in a childlike tone but they are thoughts not voices. Sound like my thoughts in a childish voice.
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******Trigger Warning****
I was thinking about my phone having enough charge to go to the dentist today last night. My child alter has been saying stuff about my Mom abusing them for like a week and a half now but some before then. All of the sudden they said My Mommy, sticks things inside of me. Do I trust them? I saw a movie where that happened to a little girls 2 days prior to that. So what do I do? |
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