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Old 10-01-2015, 06:11 AM #61
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Hi All, I just went thru a living hell after my wife decided she wanted ' to go in a different direction ". I guess the old " to death do us part ' should just be thrown out the window.
It's obviously a long story and I will share parts as I go along. I'm not much of a typer so I try to keep things short. But let me say this. I was married a very long time and because of my personal mental and physical situation I didn't even see it coming. For ME all the clichés are correct. Blinded by love , etc... It is like a death in the family and that's how I have to look at it to go on. The mental anguish I went through , especially having BPD , is and was horrific. To be continued...
All you people out there get all the help you can. If you have any feelings left for him/her its going to be hard. If your the kind of person who doesn't have any feelings left and have a ' replacement " or look with confidence about moving on it probably will be somewhat easier.
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TO : GAMGIRL 31

Wow, your husband doesn't know how lucky he is to have someone who is trying to understand and keep the marriage together. Obviously if he wants to die he needs professional help. At the same time you need to be ready to move on with your life without him. See I was on the other side of this and got hit with a ton of bricks I didn't even feel ! You are being forewarned so get the help you need too.

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This forum is for the support and discussion of those who are going through a divorce of separation and just need to talk to others.

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I am brand new member effective today and I have just started the process of getting a divorce! It is so overwhelming! Any and all info that I can obtain will help me!!! I just came upon this site and extremely excited for the help and guidance of others here. Thank you all in advance!
Hi where do you live. Knowing that can help a great deal in starting the process. I'm also thinking about starting mine. RosieDee
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I am brand new member effective today and I have just started the process of getting a divorce! It is so overwhelming! Any and all info that I can obtain will help me!!! I just came upon this site and extremely excited for the help and guidance of others here. Thank you all in advance!
Where do you live by the way. What can I help with.
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Hi everyone I'm new here. Going through a separation right now going on 4 months. Been married for 21years.trying to work it out.
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I got a divorce after 31 years of verbal and physical abuse....I am a christian; what my church did to me (very long story)....spiritual abuse...but I managed as always to make something positive come from the ashes: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com

I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group; have written my memoir and my book of poetry (Sanctuary of the Soul) is in the process of publication. I am working hard to get on national tv to speak about verbal abuse (rarely recognized nor understood). it took The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans to save my life and sanity. I have also written a 25 page paper on verbal abuse and joined the American Counseling Association; hopefully they will eventually accept my paper.....1 in 3 women abused and every 9 seconds a woman is assaulted. These are global statistics.....

Went back to school at age 60 and won a scholarship; it wasn't academic, but what I wrote about my life.

I believe we are all here to make a difference, and I will never stop. Getting a divorce was the most excruciating, scary experience of my life; being alone is right next to death for me, but I keep on....keeping on!

I agree... divorce is by far and away the scariest and most excruciating experience, but I'm moving on
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I've just got my divorce papers today gutted I wanted to grow old with her I'm so lonely Ive gone to my bed and don't want to ever get out just curl up an sleep forever it don't feel I can go on
Just keep living until you feel alive again. Ask anyone and everyone for support.... ask them to live with you for awhile if need be.
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I've just got my divorce papers today gutted I wanted to grow old with her I'm so lonely Ive gone to my bed and don't want to ever get out just curl up an sleep forever it don't feel I can go on
Just keep living until you feel alive again. Ask anyone and everyone for support.... ask them to live with you for awhile if need be.
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I hope you are doing better. We have to do what we have to do for awhile to manage the shock and pain. I drank a lot of alcohol and called people and sobbed while I was drunk. Now have a counselor, support group, and family and friends (despite drunken rants.) I completely fell apart. Almost 6 months have passed now and am doing much better. Joined a health club and got a personal trainer and am looking to move to a community with more people my age (I'm 63!) Divorce process coming to conclusion. My old life is gone.

You will eventually get out of bed... it's a process. You will get through this, but I know about the gut-wrenching pain.
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