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Sometimes attachment is healthy and sometimes it's not (based on attachment styles we learned from our parents). You have indicated that your attachment to your ex-bf was unhealthy but it was still an attachment...not something you could just switch off as soon as the relationship ended. You need time and support to work through this loss and pain. I think you are being really tough on yourself. I have a feeling you'd be more understanding and kinder to another woman in a similar situation than you are toward yourself. That may be worth thinking about. |
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Could you arrange someone to pick your stuff from him? Or can he drop it by your house when you aren’t there? I’d not want to meet him
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It’s doubtful. I live in a secured apartment building so he can’t get in without me letting him in. It’s ok, I’m planning on losing weight anyways so the coat will be replaced. Plus it was from an ex also. My therapist told me to just get a new one and not to see him. It will disrupt my healing process
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I agree with your therapist. Sounds like it is time to move on from him.
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