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PurpleRutabega
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Mad Nov 24, 2019 at 10:04 PM
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Thanksgiving was going to be hard enough -- just me and the kids. (No family for a thousand miles. Literally. And us not allowed to cross state lines.)

He has 4 hours court-mandated visitation with our youngest (12) and none with our oldest (14), who has been in and out of Behavioral Health centers since the end of September.

Well, per local law, all written agreements about finances becaume set-in-stone and unchangable once you file divorce papers. (Not to say the court can't make changes... but if we agreed to it, we are stuck with it UNTIL the court rules.)

He agreed to pay the mortgage, and basically all the bills. (I didn't ask for this. He offered. Since I hadn't worked in 14 years, it made sense.)

Well, I went from being a stay-at-home wife & mother to a single mom, which meant I needed a job. I got one, and I just-barely no longer qualify for food stamps.

He found out about this in October, when we had an "immediate needs" hearing, about visitation for him. (At this hearing, he had an attorney, I did not. {I have one, now.} He pulled all kinds of bull, obviously contradicting himself, like saying he paid the electric bill, but didn't have the account number for the electric bill. Only one of those statements can be true!) I was barely allowed to speak. In the end, he got 4 hours/week visitation with our youngest child, none with the oldest.

Now, one of the things he agreed to pay was the phone bill. Since he left? My phone stopped working and had to be replaced. My 14-year-old had some safety concerns, and so we got her a phone. And then he got visitation with my youngest, so I got her a watch, so she could call me (& I can geo-track her). AND I added a data-line for my tablet, for work. So when he asked, a week or two ago, to have me take over the phone bill, and remove his line from the plan, I didn't object. It seemed fair. I was very cooperative.

He completed that process on Tuesday. As soon as he did? He told me to move out of the house as soon as possible. Because -- and this is cute -- he's decided the court is going to grant us joint custody, and therefore, we each need to be establishing our own homes for them, with our own means. (NOTE: Not only did he specify that I was to live in the house, with the kids, during the divorce procedings, but his divorce petition says the house "and all it's problems" should go to me.)

Tonight, my oldest teen and I had a fight. They did something stupid, and I got mad, and I got extra mad because I can't replace the thing they broke. I admitted that my anger must seem out of proportion, and that best bet was just to stay in their room & let me cool off. Then teen got mouthy. *sigh*

Well, teen & I compromised, and I let them use their laptop to chat with friends... Teen also apparently IMed dad... because before we know it, the police are knocking on the front door (setting the dogs off).

"We're here in response to your phone call, about your 14-year-old who was threatening to hurt themself?"

Yeah... didn't make the call, my teen is fine.

Bring teen out.

They came back twice, the final time took my kid on "a danger to themself or others" (Different terms for it in different states). Couldn't tell me who called.

Guess whose car was at the end of the driveway. Guess who leaned into the cop-car window for a good 20 minutes, talking to the teen he specifically was denied visitation with?

The F$(^)@r is pulling thes crud just in time for Thanksgiving.

He filed a false police report, to have our eldest locked up... just before the holiday.

I swear, I don't know what he's going to do next. Just had the locks changed...
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Default Dec 01, 2019 at 03:08 AM
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That's awful. Sometimes life just really sucks.
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