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Confused Aug 08, 2020 at 05:15 PM
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Married 47 years, disabled now 13 years from a Drs mistake giving me too strong of a drug, harmed my body causing lots of problems taking away all forms of my former life, job, families savings, etc. Slowly my husband drank more & more, now is VERY emotionally abusive even though he quit drinking 2 years ago... he just got worse since then taking away all my control of money completely. I can no longer cook, clean, etc because of my disability & he resents & blames all our life's changes on me, hating me. I am so very unhappy and I know I have to leave him but with no money, Covid, and being fairly unable to physically do very much as well as no where to go ... well it's just HARD. I finally called a lawyer & learned it will cost $4-6K just to begin the process to divorse (we own a house with some equity & he has some retirement) & the only way I can do that is a credit card which will explode my husbands wrath! I do fear him, although he hasn't in recent years harmed me physically. 4+ months ago I had to have Lung Cancer surgery & am still healing so I am very concerned about leaving my house, BUT the mental abuse is worsening! I have no where to turn, and it's truly scary out in the world!! What the heck do I do?! I honestly think my health is now at stake... I'm just at a loss at what to do and would love to hear from others ideas... if I was healthy, with money, it would be another thing. And if being in the world without Covid it wouldn't scare me so much! But I just don't think I can take this anymore!! PLEASE help!
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I recall replying to your post in the New Members Introductions forum. I'm sorry I don't really have any useful suggestions to offer you myself. The only thing that occurs to me would be to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline & see if they might have any suggestions. Here's a link to their website, which includes their phone number, along with their text information just in case you're unfamiliar with it:

National Domestic Violence Hotline | Get Help Today | 1-800-799-7233

or text: LOVEIS to 22522

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Hopefully, you are on disability or other govt income, so you have your own income.
Contact your disability office, and request to be put on a list for assisted living accomodations. Let them know you are being mistreated.

It doesn't sound from your description that you could live on your own, but with assisted living you often eat in a shared dining room (usually lunch and dinner) with other residents, or they will bring your meal to your room if you prefer. You have your laundry, housework, change of bedding all done for you, but otherwise it is your own place with staff available in case you need help.
You will have a small kitchen in which to make yourself breakfast and evening snacks if desired.
You will have your own private living area with a TV, or go to the main social area to watch TV with others. Social activities are also arranged such as shopping trips, bingo, card playing, afternoon tea etc.
These places are used by seniors who can no longer live on their own, but are not ready for full care.

My father lives in one. It is a 600sq one bedroom unit that he really likes. He also enjoys the socialization.
Could be ideal for you.

You do need to be assessed before they will take you, in case you require a higher level of care. If you need help getting out of bed, bathing, getting dressed, then assisted living won't meet your needs. But once you get the ball rolling, this will all be part of the process to get you into the right level of care.
Do you have children to help you with this?

If you own a house, find a divorce lawyer who will accept payment once the house is sold.
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