Divorce with multiple kids, my wife's family is local, my family across country.

joodad · Nov 17, 2020 at 10:55 AM

I am new to this forum, but recently found out my wife is wanting to divorce. We have 3 kids together and have said we want things to be amicable. All of her family and relatives are local to where we live, while all my family is halfway across the country. She has her support system and shoulders to lean on during this process and I am having a hard time finding that comfort.
My life has been building our business and our kids with not much outside the family social time. So I do not have too many close friends in this state to call and lean on.

The loss of seeing my kids on a daily basis, who have been my entire world in this state, is a devastating feeling. I am heart broken about my marriage as I was planning on until death do us part. I haven't been eating at all or sleeping much.

How has anyone dealt with the feeling of loneliness or loss while not having a close personal connection to lean on?

Skeezyks · Nov 17, 2020 at 04:39 PM

I'm sorry your marriage is coming to this. I can't really be of much help personally since I'm just an old recluse. However here are links to a selection of 9 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help:

Shocked that Your Spouse Left? Here's the Secret to Recovery

When One Spouse Wants Out of the Marriage But the Other Doesn't

Letting Go and Moving On After a Breakup or Divorce

12 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

Love, Heartbreak & How to Recover

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-help...ce-depression/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...le-tips/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/lib/kids-an...-tough-issues/

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...ing-a-divorce/

My best wishes to you & your family.

sarahsweets · Nov 18, 2020 at 04:18 AM

Hey @joodad I responded to your other thread about this topic.

herbal tea · Nov 20, 2020 at 08:39 AM

I understand you, divorce is always very difficult. Ordinary life is collapsing and you do not know where to go next.
And especially difficult because of the children.
It's great that you want to keep seeing them often. Because I know such men who after divorce almost do not see their children. It was as if they had divorced not only their wives but also their children.
So try to see your children more often, at least a few times a week. Because it is also very difficult for them now.
Find someone you can talk to, you need support now.

moretolife · Nov 23, 2020 at 11:25 AM

I am in a similar situation as my wife recently told me she leaving me and can empathize with what you are going through. I feel lost and am unable to find the best coping strategy because I felt like we were going to be together forever. I only have one child so I can only imagine what it is like times 3. He is my world and I can't imagine not seeing him. We are here for you and we will get through this together

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