[justgivealittle]

I had an ECT today and the nurse that was doing my IV pissed me off. He asked me how I was doing and I told him that things were rough. I told them that I have been having problems eating(I don't fit the criteria for anorexia because I'm actually overweight but I eat like 2 really small meals a day if that.) and you know what he told me? He told me to just "pick up a fork and eat!" I was so pissed. I told him that it was easier said than done and he said that he could "show me" how its done. I hate when people say things like that or think that its automatically easy to get rid of eating issues. Ugh! I felt like he was judging me and I do enough judging of myself... I don't need his crap either!

[GypsyRosalie]

people like that need to just not talk. he probably had a crap mum that never taught him to be silent if he had nothing nice to say. ignore ignorance! hugs from everyone.
Rosalie

[Warrioress]

The idiot! Some people have less emotional intelligence than a plankton!

[eskielover]

Any nurse working with people who have psychological issues which they know you have otherwise you wouldn't be having ECT.....should definitely be more sensitive about what they say.

The thing is that anyone who doesn't have a clue about anorexia that is the first comment they usually say because they can't understand how anyone can just NOT EAT.....& their lack of understanding comes out through their comments. Guess we need to be as understanding about their lack of understanding as we want them to be understanding about our struggles. In otherwords.....just blow it off to their lack of understanding & don't let it bother you. It's impossible to educate everyone on the struggles with anorexia, so it's not worth getting upset over. He is going on with his work never thinking twice about the conversation with you.....& you are the one allowing yourself to be upset by it & stewing over a conversation that is over & done with.

I found with situations like that, I think about the response I would have liked to say & be prepared for if I get a similar response in the future......like commenting: "if it was that easy, I would have done that in the first place."

[mindamarie]

Originally Posted by justgivealittle

I had an ECT today and the nurse that was doing my IV pissed me off. He asked me how I was doing and I told him that things were rough. I told them that I have been having problems eating(I don't fit the criteria for anorexia because I'm actually overweight but I eat like 2 really small meals a day if that.) and you know what he told me? He told me to just "pick up a fork and eat!" I was so pissed. I told him that it was easier said than done and he said that he could "show me" how its done. I hate when people say things like that or think that its automatically easy to get rid of eating issues. Ugh! I felt like he was judging me and I do enough judging of myself... I don't need his crap either!

He needs to go back to training because any trained nurse dealing with people with psychological issues cannot be that insensitive to other peoples problems. I don't have an eating disorder, but I know how it feels for someone to be so insensitive to something so serious.

[surviving15]

Ignore those people, I know it's difficult!!! In someway sounds like my husband. He have a pressure on me to eat. Yesterday told me to stop that child behavior and start eating. He doesn't have any idea of how I feel mentally when he start fighting for my anorexia I wanna try but in my way. I told him that he needs to search the way how to handle with an anorexic person because he is not a support at all.