advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
katydid777
Magnate
 
katydid777's Avatar
katydid777 Here Untill I'm Not
 
Member Since: Nov 2016
Location: georgia
Posts: 2,137
5 yr Member
10.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Trig Aug 01, 2018 at 08:13 AM
  #1
I don't like to admit this, but I do have a problem with eating too much. My H told me a very long time ago that he won't have a over weight wife. He has gotten on me when I have gained weight enough that it is noticeable. When we were married 25 years ago I was wearing a small size kids pants, and I was under 5ft, and very small boned. Now I ,I've lost a couple of inches. I watch what I eat, and how much. I normally have toast for breakfast/lunch, and I may, or may not have dinner. If I have dinner it is normally something in a small amount. If dinner is something that I really like I eat a lot for me, then for a few days after I am very careful about what I eat. I bounce around all the time with around 10 pounds. My H would be very happy if I could get back to what I weighed when we married. Now I guess I have taken on my H's thinking about my weight, and fight with that. I never try to make myself sick bc I can't stand to TU! But I do limit what I eat, and am almost always on a diet.

Last edited by sabby; Aug 01, 2018 at 06:58 PM.. Reason: Administrative edit to remove numbers which are against guidelines in this forum.
katydid777 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Marla500

advertisement
Deejay14
Poohbah
 
Deejay14's Avatar
Deejay14 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2016
Location: USA
Posts: 1,453
5 yr Member
41 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Aug 01, 2018 at 04:32 PM
  #2
From your description it doesn't sound like you have a disorder. Very few people who are middle age weigh what they did 25 years ago. Does your husband weigh the same? What would be say it you said you would not have a marginally overweight husband?!

__________________
True happiness comes not when we get rid of all our problems, but when we change our relationship to them, when we see our problems as a potential source of awakening, opportunities to practice patience and learn.~Richard Carlson
Deejay14 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
katydid777
 
Thanks for this!
katydid777, Marla500
katydid777
Magnate
 
katydid777's Avatar
katydid777 Here Untill I'm Not
 
Member Since: Nov 2016
Location: georgia
Posts: 2,137
5 yr Member
10.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Heart Aug 01, 2018 at 08:17 PM
  #3
Quote:
Originally Posted by Deejay14 View Post
From your description it doesn't sound like you have a disorder. Very few people who are middle age weigh what they did 25 years ago. Does your husband weigh the same? What would be say it you said you would not have a marginally overweight husband?!
I scored high on the quiz, and it would be so easy for me to get below what I should be, but so far I am not under weight. My H has said several times that he needs to loose weight, but he doesn't change his eating habits, and hasn't been able to loose hardly any. He would say he is trying, but he rely isn't trying seriously, and he is at least 25 pounds over weight.

Last edited by katydid777; Aug 01, 2018 at 08:20 PM.. Reason: I wanted to add more
katydid777 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Blueberrybook
Magnate
 
Blueberrybook's Avatar
Blueberrybook has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2017
Location: La Porte, TX
Posts: 2,899
5 yr Member
78 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Aug 02, 2018 at 09:23 AM
  #4
If you feel you have an eating disorder, it's best to get treatment right away. I'm 40 years old and have been carrying this baggage since I was 19. It gets better and worse at times but never goes completely away like I wish is would. Cognitive behavior therapy & depression meds helped me. Well, the therapy did, not so sure about the meds though they did give me stuff to help with the horrid insomnia I had.

__________________
Bipolar 1, PTSD, anorexia, panic disorder, ADHD

Seroquel, Cymbalta, , propanolol, buspirone, Trazodone, gabapentin, omeperazole

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and I -
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
--Robert Frost
Blueberrybook is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
katydid777, Marla500
 
Thanks for this!
katydid777, mwaxy
katydid777
Magnate
 
katydid777's Avatar
katydid777 Here Untill I'm Not
 
Member Since: Nov 2016
Location: georgia
Posts: 2,137
5 yr Member
10.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Heart Aug 03, 2018 at 08:39 AM
  #5
Quote:
Originally Posted by cln1812 View Post
If you feel you have an eating disorder, it's best to get treatment right away. I'm 40 years old and have been carrying this baggage since I was 19. It gets better and worse at times but never goes completely away like I wish is would. Cognitive behavior therapy & depression meds helped me. Well, the therapy did, not so sure about the meds though they did give me stuff to help with the horrid insomnia I had.
I do see a Pdoc. and a T, they are aware that I have a problem with eating.
katydid777 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
toomanycats
Grand Poohbah
toomanycats is taking it one day at a time
 
Member Since: May 2017
Location: USA
Posts: 1,734
5 yr Member
542 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Aug 13, 2018 at 08:06 AM
  #6
The #1 concern I have would be regarding your husband.
It's practically impossible to learn to love yourself and fight intrusive, unhealthy thoughts when the person who should be your main support (and love you no matter what you look like) is, instead, being controlling and critical.
toomanycats is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
katydid777
 
Thanks for this!
katydid777, Marla500
katydid777
Magnate
 
katydid777's Avatar
katydid777 Here Untill I'm Not
 
Member Since: Nov 2016
Location: georgia
Posts: 2,137
5 yr Member
10.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Heart Aug 15, 2018 at 08:30 AM
  #7
Quote:
Originally Posted by toomanycats View Post
The #1 concern I have would be regarding your husband.
It's practically impossible to learn to love yourself and fight intrusive, unhealthy thoughts when the person who should be your main support (and love you no matter what you look like) is, instead, being controlling and critical.
I unfortunately don't have any support at home. My H has a lot of issues him self, but won't do anything about them. He thinks he has made it this far in life, so why fix things. He has said a couple times that he would go to anger management, but when the time comes it is, he is fine. He is like this with seeing a Dr., a Dentist, ect. He was pushed when he was young, that he had to be a tough man, like Jon Wane for a example, and that is how he is. As far as my weight goes, he has told me so many times that all the females in his family are very over weight, and he won't be with anyone overweight, and that especially means me!!!
katydid777 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Marla500
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 04:22 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.