[wookiegoldfur]

Sometimes I become impulsive and I can have a hard time controlling the urges. For example:

• I quit my job.

• I cut my hair.

• I'll buy things.

When I don't act on these impulses or get turned down to do something I become really disappointed. At times when I become fixated on the idea of cutting my hair, I won't stop thinking about it until I go into the bathroom and cut some of it off myself to alleviate the urge. My mom tells me she doesn't know what I want at this point because I'll tell her one day how badly I want my hair to be long and then another day I'll be asking her if I should cut it. Sometimes, if the impulse is really bad I'll manipulate her into agreeing with me so I can have that "approval" to back up myself up. When I decided to quit my job I was doing fine there. I was actually a well-like and great employee. But I felt triggered by my siblings getting new jobs so I went job hunting. As soon as I found one I quit. I became dedicated to this new job for 2 weeks, even buying a $100 education program, and then I lost confidence in myself and quit. Every time I act on my impulses I eventually crash and have a lot of regrets and I become lost. I'm currently in that state. I don't know why I do these things which really kind of bothers me. I feel like I'm sabotaging myself! I worry if I don't get a handle on it I'm just going to continue on this annoying cycle.

I feel silly for asking this, but how does a person control impulsive behavior?

I think seeing a therapist would be the first step. I also am impulsive. impulsivity is actually a feature of borderline personality disorder, so if you have suffered trauma you may want to research this.

I think therapy would help. Coming up with goals and a plan to help curtail the urges would be a great starting point if you choose to do that. Love&light

[gayleggg]

I have impulse control, too. Adjusting my meds helped me some but I work with a therapist as well. I could have written you post. I've done all those things only to have regrets later.

[striking]

Stand in front of a mirror and talk, yes out loud, about this impulse. Once done, how would you as your friend respond, say it out loud. Keep the shouting to a minimum. ��