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Sep 11, 2018 at 02:44 PM
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Let's say this:
"The secret to happiness is to accept what we don't like and to appreciate what we like" What do you think? Is it true? Is it not? Is it half-true? Does accepting something you don't like make you happier? Does appreciating something you like make you happier? |
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Sep 11, 2018 at 02:46 PM
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Absolutely!
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Sep 11, 2018 at 04:57 PM
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I think that it is true, but there are other variables
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Sep 11, 2018 at 05:13 PM
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Yes and yes! (to your questions)
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Sep 11, 2018 at 06:51 PM
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To have few wants . This is the answer .
Dissatisfaction comes from always wanting more ... from comparing yourself to others ... from never counting your blessings . There is no such thing as happiness . It's an illusion . There is content however . By endlessly pursuing happiness we produce unhappiness ... which does exist . |
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Sep 15, 2018 at 04:22 AM
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I think acceptance of certain things would definitely bring me some inner peace, sure. But I must admit, I've been trying and trying to accept something, or see it in more positive light, or to understand it better, for years now, but simply have not been able to shift the way I feel about it, and so it continues to hurt me, depress me, frequently. So, to say 'all you need to do is accept' - is, for me, easier said than done. And I bet that's true for a lot of people. But, hey, I'm happy for all those people who can go around accepting everything at the drop of a hat. Wow. How lucky. But appreciating the things I like, to be grateful for things, has never been an issue.
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Sep 15, 2018 at 09:29 AM
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Sure, sometimes I need to accept that I can't accept. At least that I can't accept right now. I need to accept that I need time to accept. @ArchieAus Sure, if happiness means expecting to be jumping up and down all the time, that's not going to happen or at least not all the time, maybe sometimes. To me happiness is a bit more like going to the park and contemplate the green and children playing. |
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Sep 15, 2018 at 10:18 AM
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In other words, to me, it's just another one of those airy fairy things people pick up at the therapists office that sound good, that make the therapist sound 'wise' but in practice, everyone's still struggling really. Forget acceptance, it doesn't work. "Oh but it takes time - 20 - 30 years" Lol Ridiculous. |
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