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Old 12-29-2018, 02:18 PM #1
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Personally I value the truth. I always go to amazon or yelp and look at the negative reviews first. If I see two similar detailed posts, I will know there is a problem.

But often, when I do the same for people, post a detailed review of something that is negative (but not even that negative) people HATE IT.

A hobby I have is posting reviews of movies that don't have a ton of reviews on IMBD. I always try to be detailed and fair and just state the facts.

But I always get "not helpful" votes.

It seems to me most people don't want to know the truth. When I post a positive review (5 stars) I always get a lot of helpful votes.

Just seems odd.
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I 'm with you....I believe in telling it like it is or like I have experienced it & I want to gear the good, the bad & the ugly about whatever so I can make an educated choice.

Lots of people want to learn the hard way themselves then complain about it. (If only they had researched)....that is their problem. Maybe some day they will learn...but it is their choice as much as it is our choice to educate ourselves.

I have always said their are a lot of ostriches with their head stuck in the sand around us.
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I have always said their are a lot of ostriches with their head stuck in the sand around us.
Yup... but something that puzzles me all the more is that some people, it seems, are simply unable of critically looking at something. It seems people see something, it does its job and then, the decide that just doing the job is a 10 on a scale of 1-10.

Like they are not even capable of seeing the truth or purposefully lie because they feel that they should give a good review. Like it is a bad thing to state the truth?
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Sometimes itís how the message is conveyed, rather than what was conveyed. I own a small business and I value feedback. I would obviously prefer negative feedback delivered to me directly rather than posted on social media, so I have a chance to fix the situation.

What is the purpose of your negative feedback? If itís just a hobby, I would encourage you to re-examine what youíre saying and how youíre saying it. Usually when people give negative feedback itís because they want to use that business again, but they also want their concerns heard and resolved.

I canít imagine having nothing better to do than go online giving businesses negative feedback just because I can. No one is perfect, we all have our bad days. If you have a bad experience, try to resolve it with the company before going to social media.
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What is the purpose of your negative feedback? If itís just a hobby, I would encourage you to re-examine what youíre saying and how youíre saying it. Usually when people give negative feedback itís because they want to use that business again, but they also want their concerns heard and resolved. If you have a bad experience, try to resolve it with the company before going to social media.
See I completely do not see it this way. Most companies just want you to shut up. So if you go to them with the problem they will just yes you to death and go on to do it to someone else. The only way to makes sure they can't do it to anyone else is for YOU to state what happened to you, in public.

Yes, this is my hobby. There is nothing more delightful than going to a business that has a zillion 5 star reviews (by who I do not know) and blowing the whistle. I always just state the facts and let other people decide.

I also do this for movies. Far too often it seems do I see insanely positive reviews of a just horrible movie. I enjoy blowing the whistle.

If I do go to a good business/ movie I am happy to state that too.
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I saw a couple of really bad doctors and I felt it was my duty to leave negative reviews to prevent other patients from seeing them. I don't know if people will actually read the reviews, but I am trying to save them from incompetent doctors.
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This thread kinda reminds me of how I got back at my old apartment complex for treating me like ****.


When I moved out Oct 2018, I was trying to get my deposit back. I went out of my way to clean the apartment spotless before I left them the key even. When it came time to get my deposit back, they made every excuse not to deliver. I waited patiently for a few weeks then called them. Kept getting excuse like "oh the manager is sick", never could get a straight answer about when I am getting my check or even if I'm getting it. Then the people that worked there had the nerve to continuously put me on hold and hang up on me which REALLY pissed me off. I wrote a detailed review on Google and Yelp telling in detail every single thing that is wrong the the apartments (the apartments had a LOT of issues). I also told the world how I was treated. I ended up getting my review featured and top rated on Google. Bet they hate their lives now.


But yeah, only time I write a review is if it's about something either really bad or really good. Most times I am too lazy to write a review. Also I prefer to fix my own issues whenever possible (such as when I buy tech stuff). If you treat me bad enough for me to want to take action, watch out because I could ruin your business if I so desired.
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Good points above.

I'd like to add though that some people might see or hear a truthful statement as a personal slight on themselves. I doubt many people wish to hear something that is a negative reflection on them. It means having to acknowledge a situation or character flaw.

I DO fill out comment sheets and post honest reviews of products and services too. I almost feel like I am duty bound to do so. I notice too that they aren't as well received as the positive comments and I have gotten some hurtful posts in response - usually from the company or firm involved. Note, I will also make my displeasure known directly to the company too. It isn't about raking them through the coals rather about an honest review.

And, btw, I don't understand why a company would invite reviews if they are not prepared to get bad ones. In a way isn't it their own fault to then get them in such a public manner?
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heres why I dont read and rely on the reviews I find , dont even read them....

whats good to one person is not good to another... we all have different reasons why we are looking for something, a movie, a book, a doctor.... my reasons for finding things may not be another persons reasons.

anyone can be any one online. just because a person does a review for a movie, book or treatment provider does not mean they actually have personal experience in reading that book, seeing that movie or being that treatment providers client.

Any one who is writing reviews can have alterior motives for doing so, there are companies like telemarketing that hires people to do reviews and it doesnt matter what they say in the review, they just have to put in their hours like any other job or show proof that they wrote so many reviews that day. some do depend upon getting results for payment but again there is nothing stopping someone from logging on as another person and clicking like on the reviews to jack up their pay (not saying you do this, just that I know someone who;s job is to do that jack up the reviews so that this or that gets priority that day)

I consider reviews like those tv commercials or inline ads and telemarketers. they are annoying and I will make up my own mind based on why I am going to see that movie, read that book or buy that product. ...

let me give you an example...one time I was looking online for a movie to take my children to.. the reviews said it was a great family movie, its horrid, its ok..... good thing I go see movies before I take my children to it because despite what all the fantastically worded reviews were saying was far wrong for me and my family. for my family I found it to be a very distasteful movie, and the animation to be choppy, sloppy and would not have held my childrens interests. I am guessing a great many of the reviews for that movie was not one where the reviews had actually spent their money to go see. more than one review didnt contain any real elements from the movie other than the trailer and what you find online.

my suggestion is not to worry about how others dont mark your reviews with stars. most people dont mark reviews. they find what they are looking for then get offline and go but that item, go see that movie and so on or not based on what they want to do in their own lives. everyone has different reasons why they are looking for what ever they are looking for and its not gonig to match up with reviews any way.

if you get paid per ratings my suggestion is before making a review of each movie take time to actually go see the movies then write a review that is different than the millions of other reviews out there. put into your reviews something about things that most people would put into it, no trailer info, be different. someone I know spends about 400 a month actually seeing movies in theaters, then writing reviews that are totally different than what most reviews contain. they find that obscure moment in the movie that has not been in the trailers, commercials or clips on youtube. and writes something about that. this is how they get the max stars every time.
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Also most people that make many of these reviews are idiots.


There is a reason why there are so few people with a high IQ compared to those with low IQ. If the majority of people posting online reviews are average or below average, than the quality of the reviews are going to me understandably low.


I do my own research most of the time on stuff. I'm not in any way swayed by commercials or ads. I don't watch regular TV anymore and stream or torrent everything because I don't want to pay a premium to be advertised to. I run ad blockers on all my browsers that I disable only if I'm on a non profit site or a smaller YouTube channel that I like. I also run a global ad blocker on my smartphone that blocks ads from all apps.



I also almost never write reviews simply because I'm lazy and don't really care. The time I spend writing a review could be spent doing something that interests or benefits me. The only exception is when I am treated extremely good or extremely bad by a business (that apartment example in my previous reply is an example of the latter).

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