[rdgrad15]

Ever heard someone say something that may or may not be true but in their eyes, it is the complete truth and that they are not wrong? They will go as far as to say they are telling it as it is. In some cases they may genuinely be telling the truth, which is okay. But in other situations, usually when it is based off of personal opinion, it is not always true. I knew someone that truly believed that just because someone decides to start talking to me and even wants to hang out, that person really doesn't like me as a friend and was just using me. While yes that can and has happened, there is a difference between someone actually wanting to be your friend and someone just using you as a last option. The person would go as far as to say she is just telling it as it is. There were other instances where she claimed to speak nothing but the hard cold truth. Something that she believed others were just too afraid to say. She claimed that due to this, this was part of the reason she felt like she was better than others since she could say things most other people were thinking but were too afraid to say and that people would actually secretly agree with her.

I've heard other people make judgements based off of looks and even say that the way someone looked determined what kind of person they are. They would end their statements with just being honest or just telling it as it is. In some cases, when someone is being honest and telling it as it is when someone else they like is being hurt emotionally or physically or just being treated badly, that is more acceptable since it can be helpful to see how someone is being treated. In those situations, the person is telling someone facts. But in others, including the one example I gave, it is just an opinion. In that example, she didn't like me hanging around other people. When people claim to tell it as it is when it isn't true, it makes me wonder if they are just secretly insecure and want to feel better about themselves. What do you guys think? It is one thing where it is facts that's being said, especially if someone's safety is at risk or if someone is legitimately being used, but when it is just opinions and especially if the person is arrogant or stuck up, then telling it as it is isn't exactly okay.

[sarahsweets]

"telling is as it is" is mostly subjective. They can be telling it as it is which means they are an asshole with an opinion. Saying you are giving you their honest opinion makes more sense "than telling it as it is". A lot of time these people think their opinion is welcome. I mean if you ask for an opinion then you will get one but if information is volunteered when it is not asked for then I do not see how you can tell it like it is-since the person did not ask for an opinion.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

"telling is as it is" is mostly subjective. They can be telling it as it is which means they are an asshole with an opinion. Saying you are giving you their honest opinion makes more sense "than telling it as it is". A lot of time these people think their opinion is welcome. I mean if you ask for an opinion then you will get one but if information is volunteered when it is not asked for then I do not see how you can tell it like it is-since the person did not ask for an opinion.

Totally agree with you. Someone saying they are telling it as it is just makes them sound like a know it all and think they have the correct answers to everything.