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Default Feb 17, 2019 at 11:35 PM
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I could have written this about my life. I totally agree.
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Default Feb 18, 2019 at 09:09 AM
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Personally, sometimes I think there is a hidden trap door in my brain which has the answer - only I'm too frazzled to remember where I left the key.

but as you say, "not in all cases of course"!

Actually there is something odd happening to my brain recently. I've had to tolerate a lot of extreme emotional stress and sleepless nights. Sleeping medication only helps so far and then it's up to me to create a calm place for my emotions. I notice that I'm becoming more accepting, as if my constant avoidance of trauma itself created relationship problems -with myself and with other people!! I like my body. I am more relaxed with other people.

I'm not always sure what is my duty as a friend. Today I had a cultural problem knowing what was right to do, so being a friend involved reaching out authentically from guesswork. Friends make mistakes.

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Default Feb 18, 2019 at 09:27 AM
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The biggest reason for promoting life is our instinct of self preservation. That's something that I lack. I don't feel that I need to be here if I don't want to. My friend has a coworking that just lost her husband. He was bipolar and he took his life after a full year of being down. People were sad and upset he would do such a thing. When I have my bad bipolar moments I'd lose all connection to society and really don't care about anything. I totally understand when another bipolar person ends it. It's a challenge in its self to keep on going. Life is so mundane.

Message me sometime. Having conversations with someone that's going through the same issues over and over like yourself helps a lot.
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Default Feb 18, 2019 at 10:05 AM
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saidso, I'd have given a proper (and totally deserving) response to your post; however the exams are coming and I cannot spend much time online.

FriendlyJoe, I will make sure to message you when I am free. Much love to all.
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Trig Feb 18, 2019 at 08:14 PM
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To me, the answer is NO. Life is not worth living. It's full of suffering. Some people see it, others understandably deny it because our brain has evolved to encourage survival by playing tricks and illusions.

If I had the choice, I wouldn't choose to come to this life. It was imposed on me. For this I blame my parents who were selfish to have me, and now that I am suffering with depression and struggling in life, they have abandoned me, and it's all my fault.

I think what is frightening about suicide is not death, but the associated pain. At least this what scares me. If there was a medically-assisted suicide option that is supervised by medical professionals to ensure pain-free death, I would choose it.

Disclaimer: I don't encourage suicide, but for me I would rather die than living.
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Default Feb 19, 2019 at 09:38 PM
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To me, the answer is NO. Life is not worth living. It's full of suffering. Some people see it, others understandably deny it because our brain has evolved to encourage survival by playing tricks and illusions.

If I had the choice, I wouldn't choose to come to this life. It was imposed on me. For this I blame my parents who were selfish to have me, and now that I am suffering with depression and struggling in life, they have abandoned me, and it's all my fault.

I think what is frightening about suicide is not death, but the associated pain. At least this what scares me. If there was a medically-assisted suicide option that is supervised by medical professionals to ensure pain-free death, I would choose it.

Disclaimer: I don't encourage suicide, but for me I would rather die than living.
I think like that too! If I was sure to not go in coma/wake up later with disabilities/go blind/deaf etc. after attempting suicide and then survive anyway, or to be dead without much suffering and consequences, I'd surely die...

But hey, since that's not possible, we should try our best (obviously not easy but a classic advice regardless) and try to make our life fulfilling.
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I think like that too! If I was sure to not go in coma/wake up later with disabilities/go blind/deaf etc. after attempting suicide and then survive anyway, or to be dead without much suffering and consequences, I'd surely die...

But hey, since that's not possible, we should try our best (obviously not easy but a classic advice regardless) and try to make our life fulfilling.
Some people cannot make their lives fulfilling. Some people live in constant pain. I know it's controversial in most countries to even allow the terminally ill people decide to die under the supervision of medical staff, but I think in some Scandinavian countries you can decide to be evaluated by professionals to help you to die pain-free if you are severely depressed for example. After all, it's their own lives, I don't know why it's controversial.
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Some people cannot make their lives fulfilling. Some people live in constant pain. I know it's controversial in most countries to even allow the terminally ill people decide to die under the supervision of medical staff, but I think in some Scandinavian countries you can decide to be evaluated by professionals to help you to die pain-free if you are severely depressed for example. After all, it's their own lives, I don't know why it's controversial.
I am in constant pain too. I am trying to make a hell of living by becoming a medical scientist or at least making trying to become one. For me, science is a way of living life, which includes all of its beautiful branches like medicine and applied biotechnology. I distract myself by telling myself, "You've got to do something, you were born for this." I don't care if it's a lie (which it probably isn't), but at least I can succeed....

You've got to find your purpose.
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Default Feb 20, 2019 at 06:44 AM
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I want to die everyday but if I was offered legally to take a pill that would end my life immediately I am not sure I would take it. There were plenty of times in my past I would have grabbed that pill out of their hands and popped it quickly into my mouth. Right now even though I am in pain and mentally suffering I am still making it through the day and getting things done.

It would be very comforting to know it was there as an option if I could not take this life anymore. That kind of takes pressure off.

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