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I resent having to look for a job right now. It's so stressful and I don't know what say. Plus why do i have to give my time to someone just to be offered enough to barely survive on and maybe a couple days a week to do what I want...if that. There I said it I think maybe I do have an entitled mentality but it's my life it's my time and I don't get anymore I'm so tired of everyone else having control of what I do with my time. I'm so tired. I feel like admitting you don't want a job is tantamount to admitting to a murder in the US at least, maybe it's better abroad, I don't know. I'm probably just not talented or ambitious enough to live life on my terms in the way I want, or maybe I'm just stubborn.
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Is it the fact that you have to work at all, or the fact that you have to work in a field you don't enjoy? There's a big difference between these two.
Working in a field that does not mesh well with your strengths and desires can be very soul-sucking. For example, I cannot work in the restaurant industry anymore because it is far too fast-paced and stressful. I decided to go to school to get involved in a field I am passionate about, and will be graduating soon. Perhaps it's just a matter of finding out where you -want- to work? What interests do you have, what are you passionate about? |
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Yes, work sucks. I have been working since I was 16 and I only enjoyed one job. I moved so I had to quit. But, that's life. My current job is the worst sewer I have ever worked in. But, if I want things, I have to work. Period. My house is getting close to paid off. Yay, me.
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I have a very strong viewpoint on this which I have been given grief for stating before; but, I can't help but weigh in on this.
It really depends on your living circumstances. I have to ask then in what manner you are cared for and in what ways you contribute? Do you pay rent and for food, utilities, etc? If you are not working are you on assistance or do you depend on others' kindness? In what ways then are you self-sufficient? |
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MedusaX is right. Working tends to suck, but it's what most of us in this world have to do to live and pay for the things we need or want.
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I don’t know what’s wrong with me, I often can’t sleep due to stressing about work. I think maybe I am afraid I’m spending my life at a job I’m not supposed to be at, or I feel incompetent at.
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I don’t know probably just the rantings of my sleep deprived brain.
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I completely understand what you’re saying, although ( without sounding offensive) your statement comes off a bit aggressive. But i totally get it! My perspective may be based off of more fear than disgust, i fear becoming another sheep. I fear the template of “ school, work, death”... seems to be the inevitable path for many citizens and I absolutely hate it. Doesn’t matter if you’re waiting staff or in management. You’re literally working yourself to death for people who only see you as a number. As a number who provides a service. And forget about exploring a talent or skill, people dont even want o do the basic things in life like have kids or hell take a vacation because of the time money and energy it takes to get back on track... it’s sad... I don’t mind working, but id like some level of control in what or when I do something so i dont feel as though im only conforming to survive but also when things get unbearable i can step away and not suffer because of it... that’s just me... |
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I heard a yogi say that the difference between heaven and hell is whether we are doing something willingly. Perhaps if you could find work that you feel willing to do, something you value, you'd feel better about it? I can relate to what you said about feeling that someone else owns your time or dictates your schedule. I'd love to meet the person who decided that we all have to work at least 40 hours and 5 days on, 2 days off. I personally have been a workaholic for many years and I have recently been thinking of how to change my life. Work is only one piece. And honestly, my work (though valued by society as helping others) never brought me any real personal happiness or fulfillment so I think I need to make changes. I would at least like to reduce to 4 days on and 3 days off though that may not be possible. In Japan there are many adults literally working themselves to death. They even have a word for it now: Karōshi (過労死). They work such long hours that their bodies can no longer survive. I watched a documentary about it. Very disturbing. Your point about the U.S. is well made. I think a lot of people assume that if someone is not working, that's a reflection of their character somehow. There are all sorts of reasons why people don't work or don't want to work. We cannot know what is in another person's mind or soul....nor is it our right to find out. I think we should each keep our eyes on our own yoga mat, so to speak It is no surprise to me that someone who sounds very depressed is not excited about the prospect of a job. I've lived with chronic depression since childhood. I have dragged myself to work for years. That is exhausting and can be very disheartening. I hope you can find something which brings you peace or joy. You deserve it. Last edited by Anonymous44076; Mar 25, 2019 at 03:17 PM.. |
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I think it a very rare thing indeed for someone to be fortunate enough to be doing something they absolutely love to do without stress or difficult moments. Congratulations to them. I must be doing something wrong. The point is we have obligations and commitments to adhere to in life. Contributing to our lifestyle is one of them. If you can't work (I stress "can't") or contribute financially it is then necessary to find other ways to do so. Life isn't free. I don't work. I do have a small income however. I contribute most of that into the household and you can be darned sure that I am always looking for additional ways to do so. It is my obligation. It is part of being an adult. So I cook, clean, make sure the dog is walked and otherwise ensure I am pretty damn busy doing my share. Unless you have some physical limitations preventing you from doing so, you had better be doing your part to 'pay' for your living arrangement. |
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Hi Annoyedgrunt. You have some very keen observations and I agree with your insights. I'm referring to your OP. Haven't read the rest of the thread. I hope it felt good to blow off a little steam. It's unfortunate and true, what you say, imo, too. I do not see you as entitled. I see someone who sees through the system that is United States capitalism.
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I don't think they're being entitled in the extreme or classic sense. However, I agree with what you said that we should not expect things for free. We do need to work, and help out, and reciprocate, as part of our community, family, etc. In my perspective, that is a concept for some that can easily be forgotten. And there are aspects of work that are just plain not fun. I am learning this as I go, as well. Interesting how many animals do not have to work though. It seems like a human thing to me. If, that is, you think humans are animals, which I personally do. But yeah it may also have to do with how one is brought up. Or just not having parents or parental figures who explained why we need to work or stressed its importance. I've often wondered that myself and I also did not have parents or parental figures who told me why it was important. I'm disabled. I am afraid to work (I have heard that a lot of people who have been on disability or haven't worked in a long time, find moving towards work scary - it is common) and have trouble showing up to some social things / keeping certain commitments, but I am also addressing these fears and behavioral issues so that I can work in the future, and for various other reasons as well. It is part of my personal recovery plan. |
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But I do want to say I have some understanding of your own situation. I too have not been able to have any luck with employment stability. My mood disorder - particularly anxiety - prevents me from sticking with any one job. I do have an income though and thus am able to contribute financially. As mentioned I also contribute in other ways too. I guess what I was saying previously comes down to the fact that I believe everyone should in someway be earning their keep. Where I could be wrong was my quick assumption that the OP is not doing this. |
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I love my job but I am pretty tired, my job is stressful and very demanding. So I think after many years of non stop working I feel I kind of wish I could just not work. But as most people I have to pay bills. Plus I enjoy nice things/travel etc. Are you on disability? If not I can’t imagine managing without employment, is someone else supporting you? For most people job is a necessity, not a choice or luxury.
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My brother is disabled. He has severe OCD and autism. My mom claims he can’t work. He does nothing to contribute at home. He doesn’t help with the yard work, house work, or anything. But my mom will get on me if I’m not doing these things despite the fact I’m working a part time job. I find it really unfair. If he’s not working then I think he should be doing things around the house yet all he does is sit in front of the TV watching the same series. I’ve talked before with my mom about this and she just turns it into a personal attack on me about how I’m not doing enough. She baby’s him and she will not see that he has a problem. It’s just really frustrating. __________________ Ridin' with Biden |
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