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Old 04-15-2019, 07:53 PM #31
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I think you’re very honest and sincere. I always appreciate your perspective. Most of the time I agree with you and sometimes I don’t. I value a range of opinions and ideas so I always value that you will speak your mind. We can’t please everybody. I understand how you feel though and why you posted this question. Sometimes I find out that somebody I really liked doesn’t like me and it feels bad to me. We just have to remind ourselves that people just don’t always mesh well. Am I an awful person but not able to realize it?
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I dont know if youre an awful person, but after reading missbellas post, im afraid i am! Im almost afraid to post again! But no such luck. Yes, i recently did give advice and information, so shoot me. I cant work with all those "don't's", so i will just try to follow dr johns do - be supportive.
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As Mark Twain said: "What others think of me is none of my business."

I know it hurts to think that someone has a negative view of you, but as stated, there are many reasons they might ignore you. A lot of people can only relate in negative terms and a cheerful, positive person is irritating to them.

You might be a horrible person, but all we know of you is what you post on here, so if you are you hide it well lol

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I dont know if youre an awful person, but after reading missbellas post, im afraid i am! Im almost afraid to post again!
But...but...my post was all about NOT telling others what to do. No command verb was harmed in the posting of my post.
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As Mark Twain said: "What others think of me is none of my business."

I know it hurts to think that someone has a negative view of you, but as stated, there are many reasons they might ignore you. A lot of people can only relate in negative terms and a cheerful, positive person is irritating to them.

You might be a horrible person, but all we know of you is what you post on here, so if you are you hide it well lol

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I try to follow the advice “be supportive”

And to “know myself” - that can be harder for many at times I think, especially if triggered (I also think it’s possible that some people online as well as in real life, have been known to use someone’s triggers or perceived “weaknesses” against them.

I know the truth about me and many here, we genuinely try to be supportive. Being human, we are not perfect

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As Mark Twain said: "What others think of me is none of my business."

I know it hurts to think that someone has a negative view of you, but as stated, there are many reasons they might ignore you. A lot of people can only relate in negative terms and a cheerful, positive person is irritating to them.

You might be a horrible person, but all we know of you is what you post on here, so if you are you hide it well lol

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I want to thank you all for you feedback. I really value the understanding and constructive criticism. It helps to me to grow. I very much want to fall in line with the flow of this place and I want to do my best to exercise compassion and empathy. I am def better at that in real life but I am a work in progress...
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I have been here at PC for 14 1/2 years. I try to express my thoughts as diplomatically as possible.....BUT some just don't care for any response that differs from their way of thinking. Have been put on ignore several times because of that (I must have been they didn't like my points of view) For that I have no apologies. It is their issue.

Like Jimi.....I wish it was obvious so I woukdn't waste time writing out a reply only to find out they have me on ignore. When that happens I immediately put them on ignore so I don't forget & try to reply again.

I have also put people on ignore when they do multiples if threads that are always thebsame topics. If I have replied once my reply is not going to be different the next time. The ignore keeps me from forgetting that this is what they do.

I personally like hearing different points of view so I don't use ignore for that reason. Nothing really triggers me....except the wasting time responding only to have it not posted because they have me on ignore.

I have learned not to take the ignore personally.
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I think you’re honest and sincere. Some people don’t like that. It’s their problem. I’ve occasionally been “hated” for my honesty although I try not to be harsh it’s not my problem

You are NOT an awful person
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