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Default May 26, 2019 at 02:03 PM
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Perhaps I have misconstrued what this thread was about. I'm sorry the OP had such tortuous experiences growing up BUT, I have taken the thread to be more about the everyday treatment the OP is having. Is this the case? Or is this entirely about childhood and youthful experiences?

I'm throwing this right out there.... I believe their present behaviour is the cause of the strife they find themselves in. People are behaving negatively on account of the negative behaviour of the OP. In fact I'm quite sure those around them are frankly sick and tired of it.

There Is a solution! Treat those around you with positive enjoyable experiences in the manner you wish to be treated yourself and voila - the world will improve around you.
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Default May 26, 2019 at 02:28 PM
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"SilverTrees: May I ask why you're giving up now?"

Since you asked me the question, TheUrOther, I will respond.

I offered you empathy, grace, and unconditional regard. Including when I did not understand some of your posts and needs. I politely asked more than once if myself and the other supporters here could adjust our responses in order to better suit your needs. You responded with personal insults (which I think must have been removed by a site moderator), derision, and a statement that you made it your mission to change me and all other humans.

A few reasons that is problematic:
- insulting people is disrespectful and unnecessary
- deriding others will not actually make you feel better about yourself
- myself and the other supporters on the thread did not ask you to change us therefore you ran into a boundary issue there

I remain sorry that you experienced abuse in your childhood. That was not your fault. You did not cause it nor did you deserve it. I am also sorry to hear that you are feeling miserable as an adult. I think everyone on PC can relate to that in some way. However, misery and prior abuse do not authorize you to verbally or emotionally abuse others. We all deserve safety and respect and we all have a duty to contribute to safety and respect.

I am answering your question and pointing out problems but I'd also like you to note that I have not abused you in any way here. Even after you posted very rude and derisive comments to me. I have not called you names. I have not denigrated you. I have not threatened your peace and safety. I have simply disagreed with you and made my boundaries clear.

You said you are dying. I do not know if that was a poetic reference to your lack of trust in humans or a literal statement that you are terminally ill. I will continue to wish you peace and hope. Despite what you have asserted, I do *not hate you. I have *not abused you. I have *no desire to see you suffer or become even more miserable.

I do believe that each adult is accountable for their own happiness. Choosing a lifetime of the victim role is a barrier to happiness....to perceive one's self as an eternal victim is to be a prisoner...in a very small dark prison with invisible walls. And actual victimization (as in childhood abuse) does not make it okay to emotionally attack others.

If you feel up to it, you could read over the messages you received from many here. People were trying to help including myself. I believe that. What I do not accept from anyone is a bid for sympathy for their abuse experience while in the midst of abusing others. That's simply untenable.

Please take good care of yourself TheUrOther.
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Heart May 26, 2019 at 02:38 PM
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May these words bring solace to you TheUrOther and to the other troubled folks here at PC...

Sometimes

Sometimes things don't go, after all,
from bad to worse. Some years, muscadel
faces down frost; green thrives; the crops don't fail,
sometimes a person aims high, and all goes well.

A people sometimes will step back from war;
elect an honest person, decide they care
enough, that they can't leave some stranger poor.
Some people become what they were born for.

Sometimes our best efforts do not go
amiss, sometimes we do as we meant to.
The sun will sometimes melt a field of sorrow
that seemed hard frozen: may it happen for you.


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Default Jun 10, 2019 at 05:52 PM
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No bullies have no right to be harmfully aggressive. With this I agree. However not everyone in your life is a bully, something you seem so hell bent on believing. This is ridiculous. If everyone as you say is being so horrible to you then you are doing something wrong.
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