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Hey guys,
I’m new here, I’ve been living in the city for 6 months it doesn’t feel right I find it difficult to care about people and they seam so wanting I keep asking myself if there something wrong I’ve recently been through a bereavement from suicide I used to be so emotional and loving caring etc, can you really appreciate people when your so over saturated by them? I find myself constantly fantasising of being alone and quietness and things being natural and nobody trying or having something to prove it’s so stifling |
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Hello Sleepyem: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central.
From what you wrote, it sounds as though you are having a difficult time adjusting to life in the city. I can relate to that. I grew up in & around small towns. But I've now lived in a large metropolitan area for the past... oh... 25 years or so. And, while I'm adjusted to it now, it took a while. I still miss the quiet & solitude of a rural area though. You mentioned having recently been through a bereavement from suicide. Here are links to 3 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that offer suggestions for coping with grief & loss. The second article, by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D. provides links to additional articles on the subject of grief & loss. The third article is one of which I myself am especially fond: Coping In The Aftermath of Suicide | Healing Together for Couples Coping with Grief | Psych Central What My Dog Taught Me about Grief and Loss I hope you find PC to be of benefit. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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I feel like it is really noticeable when you read fiction from the 1800s to 1900s. All those people seemed to ever care about is meeting new people. It was such a great thing just to meet anyone else... you would probably marry them. But today people are everyplace and they are just terrible. I am starting to think they are terrible because they too secretly want to be alone. |
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While I bet in a very isolated place people just long for others. In the 1800s manners was also a massive thing, because if you were fortunate enough to find another human, you wanted to do all you could not to offend them. But now, manners are out the window because honestly, you DO want to offend them. Someone takes up 4 places on the subway because he wants the space. People push in when there is no room because they are tired of waiting for others to move in. I truly think there are too many people and I truly think that what government is not telling you is that SOME DAY, unless there is a big war or pandemic, we are going to overwhelm each other or the planet or both. I just hope that day doesn't happen in my life time. ETA: I also believe that these gun killings are a symptom of too many people. It may be connected to mental illness to but until you have spent a day with too many people acting poorly you don't know how it feels. Last edited by Anonymous45521; Aug 04, 2019 at 12:26 PM.. |
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So much of it is the opposite and honestly sometimes I feel so annoyed of faces on TV or just everywhere these faces so many faces , I don’t know why, I want some kind of isolation that’s impossible to achieve it seams , maybe because we can only be ourselves completely and comfortably relaxed on our own , I feel there’s ideas in people’s minds meet them you fall into certain categories and we aren’t that we are a million changing things out personality’s are so vast like all people , we are different with different people makes it so confusing ie what is me ? Yes I so wish for this nomad lifestyle so deeply wishing |
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Imagine what it would be like for everyone to be concerned on the train that everyone get a seat. Imagine what it would be like for everyone to walk slowly and let others out, even if it meant it took longer for them to get down the train way. I wonder sometimes if we really messed up with modern day society. In the 40s or 50 yes it was corny to be earnest, to offer to help others, to invite strangers over for dinner and to have manners which made other's happy. We thought ourselves so smart to disregard all these things but, in the end, things WERE better then and it was perhaps necessary to have large groups of people and for us all to be happy. |
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