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Do you believe in the concept that most people don't care about your struggles while the rest are secretly glad you have them? I've heard of that concept many times before, both online and in person. To an extent, yes there are lots of people that genuinely do not give a crap and there will be people that are secretly glad you have them. I've seen both. But I would imagine some people that are very close to you really do care because they wouldn't ask if they didn't. Unless they are asking out of politeness and hope you actually don't confide in them, similar to how two strangers will ask each other how they are but don't actually confide in one another.
I sometimes think the belief that absolutely no one cares whatsoever, and I mean absolutely no one, while many others are secretly gleeful you are struggling, is a bit extreme. Like I said, yes there will be people on both extremes, usually those who are strangers to each other or have a dislike towards one another, and even in some cases, a toxic friendship or relationship, but I'm sure there are some people that genuinely care. Do you think there are some people that genuinely care or do you think absolutely no one cares? I think as long as you're careful at who you confide in, it is okay. Just confide in the right people and I think it will be fine. |
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I’ve never heard of that before but I do think there’s some truth to it. I also believe some people truly care but I’ve learned the hard way to be careful who I share my life stories with. I think that’s where a good counselor comes in. A good counselor will listen to your troubles and help you get back on track. I will rarely turn to friends for that anymore.
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At least in the US, people are very busy and generally care about themselves if they don't have kids, and about their kids, if they have them. They generally don't have time to think about other people and their issues.
That said, I have lived and worked all over the world and all over the United States and I still choose to believe that Americans remain fundamentally caring and generous people. Other than things like PC, I really just wish facebook would go bankrupt, because I believe it and sites like it encourage bad human conduct and bullying and I believe this fact is harming the fabric of American culture. I realize many, many people disagree. What about the rest of the world? Well, I have not visited every country, but I can tell you this--the Chinese people are awesome. Very generous. Absolutely love capitalism. Their government? Not so awesome, in my view. I could go on. People on this planet are generally good. There are exceptions. And people are very busy trying to make it all happen. But I don't really think there are very many people just sitting around laughing at the suffering of others. Hopefully not. __________________ When I was a kid, my parents moved a lot, but I always found them--Rodney Dangerfield |
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In my experience people are generally good and caring everywhere in the world. Saying that, it’s not possible to care about well being of every stranger. When you mean caring, are you referring caring about people we know like family and friends or everyone out there?
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In my experience family and friends care about each other on the most part unless it’s a distant relative they haven’t ever met or someone they are estranged from.
So you are saying that 20% of people rejoice when their loved ones suffer and the other 80% just don’t care? So 0% care about their family and friends? So people don’t care about their children? Mothers? Brothers? Or rejoice when they suffer? It makes them feel better? It simply isn’t possible. I am having hard time understanding it Where do you find this stuff? I’d say there is a lot of nonsense on the Internet. I’d not believe everything on the internet. |
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I have seen - and been caught up in- the most egregious displays of hateful rage on Facebook that ever, anywhere IRL or online. Some genuinely ugly *****. I would like to make private all of my picture albums, just so I can store them, and leave Fb. But the problem is that I really do have close friends that I communicate with only on Fb. I so preferred email, but no one seems to use it anymore except for business purposes I have greatly lessened my time there, though; I seldom check it more than 2 quick checks per day. So it's a step. __________________ |
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I read that most jobs don’t give 2 shits about you. So that’s why you shouldn’t bend over backwards for them. Because they will replace you in a second for whatever reason they choose to. I do believe my job is somewhat understanding but I also believe they will fire me if they want to.
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