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Default Jan 30, 2020 at 10:29 AM
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Do you believe your experiences alone can cause you to not have a sex drive or are there conditions or just some people who are born that way? I really have never had one... and I’m not sure how to approach a relationship with this “issue”. It’s not an issue for me.. but it’s an issue for everyone else... and most likely an issue for any partner? It’s something thrown in your face on tv, in music, in books... and i just don’t “get it”.... not sure how to approach this one..
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Default Jan 30, 2020 at 11:43 AM
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I wish I had an answer to your question, but I don't. Personally I have low sex drive and always have. It does cause difficulties in my relationships but not always. Hope you gets lots of responses to your post. Best to you!
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I’m not sure entirely how to answer your question but I would like to say that when you’re really not in the mood a fun way to get there would be to start with a massage, no pressure just touching and experiencing a intimate connection, if that doesn’t lead to sex you still have shared an intimate moment with each other, and if it does it’s a good way to get really warmed up and relaxed. Another thing would be finding other ways to be “sexy”, talking dirty over text or sending suggestive photos can be a huge turn on for your partner and you can just be sending a couple photos here and there while watching Netflix. I would also suggest talking about your fantasies the things that do sound hot to you and sharing that with them so if the mood does come up they can make sure you’re having an experience and not playing the part, and lastly find someone patient and trusting because you should never be pressured into sex the right partner will be your partner in all things
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Do you believe your experiences alone can cause you to not have a sex drive or are there conditions or just some people who are born that way? I really have never had one... and...
No, I'm pretty sure some people are just born that way @pandabear0927. There's a term to describe it called 'asexuality'; basically the absence of sexual feelings but still having a desire for relationship. I think it's completely okay to be such a person.
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Default Feb 02, 2020 at 06:22 AM
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I personally think this is more common than some people want to admit. People get home frome work, take care of dinner and kids, clean up the kitchen, then it's maybe, what, 830? They're really tired, probably most days. Last thing they feel probably is sexy. They want to put on jammies and snuggle with the doggie and a soft blanket and some tea. Not get into a wrestling match. I totally get it. Things are a lot different when one is in their early 20s, say, and there are no children. Even if there are no kids at all ever, as mentioned, some people just aren't that into it. There's nothing wrong with you.

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I personally think this is more common than some people want to admit. People get home frome work, take care of dinner and kids, clean up the kitchen, then it's maybe, what, 830? They're really tired, probably most days. Last thing they feel probably is sexy. They want to put on jammies and snuggle with the doggie and a soft blanket and some tea. Not get into a wrestling match. I totally get it. Things are a lot different when one is in their early 20s, say, and there are no children. Even if there are no kids at all ever, as mentioned, some people just aren't that into it. There's nothing wrong with you.


That’s very true! I never thought of it that way. That does make me feel a bit better, thank you<3
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