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Hello. I am having trouble with my mom. She has been drinking more and more lately and I dont know what to do. She gets so angry sometimes, at both me and my siblings. And I get so anxious when she drinks. When either of my parents drink (i only live with my mom. My dad is a recovered alcoholic). I feel so angry and frustrated with her. My mother drinking is making me start to develop feelings of resentment towards her and I dont like it. Im not close to her anymore. She thinks we are, but we arent. I feel worried to even talk to her about anything. She also has this idea in her head that she is the ideal mother.
But back to the point. Why do i get so anxious and angry when she drinks? I often get to the point where I get argumentative and confrontational with her. Also, why does she drink? Even though she knows I hate it. |
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Dear Avacado,
I am so terribly sorry you are in the unhappy situation you describe. It is just heartbreaking what you are going through. I wish I knew what to say that would help. You must be so frustrated. People I have loved have been addicted to alcohol and it was so tragic for everyone. My heart goes out to you and I hope others here with more wisdom and experience than me will have helpful ideas. Sincerely yours, Yao Wen |
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Welcome to Psych Central, Avacado. I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation. Here are links to 3 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help in understanding what you are experiencing. Included is a link to a podcast on living with addicted parents. (I made the assumption here that you are, perhaps, a teen & included a link to an article on coping with emotions as a teen. If you're not a teen please pardon my error.):
The Trauma of Children of Addicts and Alcoholics Podcast: The Trauma of Living with Addicted Parents Techniques for Teens: How to Cope with Your Emotions __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Avacado, first coolest handle ever ! I just wanted to say that I am terribly sorry for what you are having to go through right now, watching someone you love self-destruct must be incredibly painful. I hope that both you and your mother are able to find the support and help you need.
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She drinks too much because shes an alcoholic.
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