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Hello. I am having trouble with my mom. She has been drinking more and more lately and I dont know what to do. She gets so angry sometimes, at both me and my siblings. And I get so anxious when she drinks. When either of my parents drink (i only live with my mom. My dad is a recovered alcoholic). I feel so angry and frustrated with her. My mother drinking is making me start to develop feelings of resentment towards her and I dont like it. Im not close to her anymore. She thinks we are, but we arent. I feel worried to even talk to her about anything. She also has this idea in her head that she is the ideal mother.

But back to the point. Why do i get so anxious and angry when she drinks? I often get to the point where I get argumentative and confrontational with her. Also, why does she drink? Even though she knows I hate it.
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Dear Avacado,

I am so terribly sorry you are in the unhappy situation you describe. It is just heartbreaking what you are going through. I wish I knew what to say that would help. You must be so frustrated. People I have loved have been addicted to alcohol and it was so tragic for everyone. My heart goes out to you and I hope others here with more wisdom and experience than me will have helpful ideas.

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Welcome to Psych Central, Avacado. I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation. Here are links to 3 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help in understanding what you are experiencing. Included is a link to a podcast on living with addicted parents. (I made the assumption here that you are, perhaps, a teen & included a link to an article on coping with emotions as a teen. If you're not a teen please pardon my error.):

The Trauma of Children of Addicts and Alcoholics

Podcast: The Trauma of Living with Addicted Parents

Techniques for Teens: How to Cope with Your Emotions


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Avacado, first coolest handle ever ! I just wanted to say that I am terribly sorry for what you are having to go through right now, watching someone you love self-destruct must be incredibly painful. I hope that both you and your mother are able to find the support and help you need.

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She drinks too much because shes an alcoholic.

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Hello. I am having trouble with my mom. She has been drinking more and more lately and I dont know what to do. She gets so angry sometimes, at both me and my siblings. And I get so anxious when she drinks. When either of my parents drink (i only live with my mom. My dad is a recovered alcoholic). I feel so angry and frustrated with her. My mother drinking is making me start to develop feelings of resentment towards her and I dont like it. Im not close to her anymore. She thinks we are, but we arent. I feel worried to even talk to her about anything. She also has this idea in her head that she is the ideal mother.

But back to the point. Why do i get so anxious and angry when she drinks? I often get to the point where I get argumentative and confrontational with her. Also, why does she drink? Even though she knows I hate it.
She is an alcoholic that why she is drinking. Ask yourself how many people in your family drinks beside your parents? Have you thought about going to an alcoholic anonymously and seeking help? I'm sorry that you are going through this. Is there someplace you can go when she drinks?
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