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I think a lot of people here offered some things to explore. Definitely, this is a perfect topic for therapy. A really important one!
I do think, as one person mentioned, that individuals are born with certain tendencies. Whether or not they equate to a disorder, or are just general personality traits, I'm not sure. I also think upbringing can play a role. Have you studied a bit of psychology in school? If so, you may recall "nature vs. nurture". How we feel, think, act, etc, is influenced by both. If you feel that any level of emotional immaturity affects your life negatively, it would be good to work on growth. I definitely think such growth is more than possible. That doesn't mean you have to be "tough as nails" or stop enjoying cartoons, if you still like them, but do continue to grow. |
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How I handle my emotions here in the forum doesn't reflect how I handle them in real life. The issue isn't that I have feelings, but rather that I lash out because of them.
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Heightened senses, emotions, and a heightened self-awareness is actually a sign of higher intelligence. It's not a matter of maturity. You are simply more aware of your surroundings. The easiest way for me to cope with this was to contain my emotional response by observing and imitating others, in order to blend in with my surroundings. It causes a bit of anxiety at times, especially a racing heartbeat, but it's useful.
I like to refer to Vulcans from Star Trek for methods on how to suppress my emotional response. Best way is to find a useful balance between logic and your emotions. Basically, Spock it. There's nothing wrong with you. __________________ "I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant." |
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When I was in therapy with my husband before I finally left him at the age of 54 after 33 years of marriage, our T said he had the emotional maturity of a 13 year old. Yep, that was a serious problem all those years but I never understood what it really was until then, just knew it aggravated me.
Learned after I left that he was on the autistic spectrum. There are many things that can cause emotional immaturity from the family we grow up in & if there is emotional abuse going on in our childhood to things like having a condition that causes it. There can also be a combination of things. Sometimes therapy helps, sometimes it doesn't. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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