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I'm not quite sure how to do this whole thread thing. But lately I have been studying emotional abuse and I realized it is happening to me. My parents constantly say negative things about me. If you were to look at them on the outside you would think they were the nicest people ever but inside or home I am constantly put down. They are very religious so every time I bring something up that they do not approve of, I am told I am a demon. Now I am not old enough to leave. They control my life. I constantly get my phone taken for random checks and if they find anything that they don't approve of I get my phone taken for 5 months at a time. The stuff they find are very little things but they don't like technology. As you know were on quarantine and my parents have cu me off from all contact with my friends and most of my family. The only time I can see my family is if they come over my house. Now my parents usually just say something, make me cry and keep it moving. They also tell my mom's mom about what i'm doing and according to them it's all me. I will admit I am short tempered and can get very heated but it only happens when they say stuff that is very hurtful and negative. I don't like sharing me feelings because they make me feel like my feelings don't matter. I just really need support or I really don't know what i'm going to do.
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Hello Creat: I believe this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central. Two forums, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would include the Relationships & Communication forum & the Survivors of Abuse forum. Here are links to these forums:
https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/ https://psychcentralforums.com/survivors-of-abuse/ I'm sorry you are experiencing so much difficulty. One additional forum you might like to check out would be the Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) forum. Here's a link to that one: https://psychcentralforums.com/child...ional-neglect/ And then here's a link to an article, from Psych Central's archives, on controlling parents. Then there are links to 5 articles on CEN in case you're not familiar with the concept (there are lots more in the archives.) Plus (on the assumption you are perhaps a teen) there's a link to an article that offers advice for coping with emotions as a teen: 6 Signs of Controlling Parenting and Why It Is Harmful Invisible, Powerful Childhood Emotional Neglect https://psychcentral.com/blog/childh...he-fatal-flaw/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/child...e-and-passive/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/child...ional-neglect/ https://blogs.psychcentral.com/child...questionnaire/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/techni...your-emotions/ I hope you find PC to be of benefit. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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You nailed it. It is all about Control. That mirrors their insecurity. Don't look to them for support. They can not change.
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How old are you?
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That is called verbal abuse. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life.
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Welcome to pc. I also believe it is about Control.
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