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Default Jun 25, 2020 at 08:29 AM
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If it was possible to travel back in time and track your old self down and teach yourself about all the mistakes that are about to be made, would you do it? Would you even slap yourself? For me, I would go back to my high school years. I was very naive back then and had trouble telling the difference between someone who was truly a toxic person and someone who may have liked me just fine, but just didn't see me as a friend. Knowing what I know now, I know a lot of trouble could have been saved if I knew all of that back in the past.

I would track myself down and tell myself to use common sense. I would tell myself about the mistakes that are about to be made and may even point out some people or scenarios I should avoid all together. I would also point out the differences between a true friend, a toxic person, and an acquaintance that may like you but not see me as a friend What would you tell your past self? Is there a certain time frame, like high school or something? I know we would all like to go back in time and warn ourselves about stuff that will happen.
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Default Jun 25, 2020 at 10:50 AM
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Oh yes..... I can relate FULLY to this right now!!!!!! Getting married for me was a vast mistake. I had doubts beforehand, but went through with it anyways. And now it's a very toxic relationship for me that I must exit. I WISH I had talked to my former self having doubts, and I wish I had listened to those doubts. I kicked myself for a LONG time over it and beat myself up for not following my gut. Lesson learned!!! The very hard way!!!!!!!

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Oh yes..... I can relate FULLY to this right now!!!!!! Getting married for me was a vast mistake. I had doubts beforehand, but went through with it anyways. And now it's a very toxic relationship for me that I must exit. I WISH I had talked to my former self having doubts, and I wish I had listened to those doubts. I kicked myself for a LONG time over it and beat myself up for not following my gut. Lesson learned!!! The very hard way!!!!!!!
Aw I'm sorry you were in a toxic marriage. Glad you learned and got out of it. Unfortunately sometimes we all have to learn the hard way. And unfortunately those who are naive at first are way more likely to not think things through or listen to their gut. I know I was like that. A lot of crap I've been through could have been avoided had I listened to my intuition.
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Aw I'm sorry you were in a toxic marriage. Glad you learned and got out of it. Unfortunately sometimes we all have to learn the hard way. And unfortunately those who are naive at first are way more likely to not think things through or listen to their gut. I know I was like that. A lot of crap I've been through could have been avoided had I listened to my intuition.
Well, I am not even close to being out of the marriage yet, unfortunately. I have a long ways to go before I can leave him. But yes, I wish I had listened to my gut, which was telling me he is trouble.

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I'd go back & tell my young self to end it while there was still time...

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Well, I am not even close to being out of the marriage yet, unfortunately. I have a long ways to go before I can leave him. But yes, I wish I had listened to my gut, which was telling me he is trouble.
Oh okay well I hope the day when you can finally have some peace without him comes as soon as possible.
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Oh okay well I hope the day when you can finally have some peace without him comes as soon as possible.
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I was given those people and circumstances and not others. While some of my history is unfortunate or embarrassing, IDK what might have happened otherwise. So, no, I don’t want to slap myself or change anything. I’m fortunate nothing was a whole other level of something that could have happened, and I’d have a different answer. Mine are and have been just growing pains.

Rgrad, it sounds like you are referring to a person in high school who didn’t see you as a friend that is significant for you.

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I was given those people and circumstances and not others. While some of my history is unfortunate or embarrassing, IDK what might have happened otherwise. So, no, I don’t want to slap myself or change anything. I’m fortunate nothing was a whole other level of something that could have happened, and I’d have a different answer. Mine are and have been just growing pains.

Rgrad, it sounds like you are referring to a person in high school who didn’t see you as a friend that is significant for you.
I’m referring to anyone or anything that happened in the past. Not a particular person. And it doesn't have to be just high school. It can be before, and some even after. Basically I would tell myself to be more aware of things and not be so naive. I’m glad yoy feel like you don’t need to change anything. And I wouldn’t want to change the timeline of everything that happens in terms of where I go to school or where I go to work.. More like, I would take my knowledge and tell myself to avoid certain events or people that are not very good which was painfully obvious but I was too naive.

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I'd go back & tell my young self to end it while there was still time...
I wouldn't do that.
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I’m referring to anyone or anything that happened in the past. Not a particular person. And it doesn't have to be just high school. It can be before, and some even after. Basically I would tell myself to be more aware of things and not be so naive. I’m glad yoy feel like you don’t need to change anything. And I wouldn’t want to change the timeline of everything that happens in terms of where I go to school or where I go to work.. More like, I would take my knowledge and tell myself to avoid certain events or people that are not very good which was painfully obvious but I was too naive.
I’d love to change things and avoid the deep hurts, but I’m afraid of what else might have happened instead. Also, much good happened, so I wouldn’t want to sacrifice that.

You were naive, but you then learned better.

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I’d love to change things and avoid the deep hurts, but I’m afraid of what else might have happened instead. Also, much good happened, so I wouldn’t want to sacrifice that.

You were naive, but you then learned better.
Yeah I wouldn't want to sacrifice the good stuff. And yeah I learned better.
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i am so filled with regret. i hate myself. and yet i did the best i could. i would go back and kill myself. there was no possible way i could have done better with what i had at the time.
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i am so filled with regret. i hate myself. and yet i did the best i could. i would go back and kill myself. there was no possible way i could have done better with what i had at the time.
Glad you did the best you could and glad you didn’t take your life.
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honestly I think it would be to depressing. I wouldn't really know where to start. I guess if I was to tell my past self 1 thing it would be enjoy life while you can. it only gets harder
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honestly I think it would be to depressing. I wouldn't really know where to start. I guess if I was to tell my past self 1 thing it would be enjoy life while you can. it only gets harder
Yeah I can understand that.
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I also would have said no to my husband when he asked that I co-sign a car lease for him. Now that I want a divorce, this is going to be a nightmare.

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I also would have said no to my husband when he asked that I co-sign a car lease for him. Now that I want a divorce, this is going to be a nightmare.
Oh yeah that will be tough. Unfortunately, from what I’ve heard and read, divorces are always ugly.
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Oh yeah that will be tough. Unfortunately, from what I’ve heard and read, divorces are always ugly.
Yeah. I was stupid to get married. It was the biggest mistake of my life!!!! What a colossal mistake, and now I am paying for it big time.

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