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Default Oct 01, 2020 at 12:57 AM
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Here is my friend's life - Happily married with a husband in a high profile position where she's required to maintain a high-society image and be a social butterfly. Owns three houses, yesterday bought a second Porsche. owns a boat,, family income is well into the six figures. Travels to Europe. She humble-brags frequently about her life (which I find somewhat annoying but never told her that) And she is always jovial. She has no history of depression or mental disorders. Just the other day out of the blue I notice she is pouting and I ask her what's wrong and tells me she feels depressed, bored and uninterested in life and she doesn't know why.

How can this be with such a life?

At first I was taken aback thinking she's just haughty and acting spoiled.

However, after some contemplating I thought perhaps deep down inside maybe she's not a superficial, social butterfly that she makes herself out to be. Maybe she trying to live up to an image that her husband needs her to be. Her humble-bragging could be a way of trying to convince herself that's she is happy. The buying of 'Things' and going to fancy 'places' is a way to numb the pain which creates a false sense of temporary happiness via adrenaline rush - which when it subsides needs repeating to maintain the same level of happiness. Ultimately when she looks at her life and it doesn't match her true inner self, it becomes depressing.

Is this possible?

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Default Oct 01, 2020 at 06:53 AM
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Even people with seemingly "perfect" lives have depression. Depression does not discriminate based on class, race, gender, ethnicity, location, age, etc. If your friend is telling you she feels depressed, you could always ask more and see if she feels that she needs help. If someone disclosed that they are unhappy, especially if we care about them, we can validate their feelings and try to point them in the direction of things that may help them feel better.
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Default Oct 02, 2020 at 06:43 AM
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Getting therapy could help her. When we have everything.....she could feel like she has no purpose in life. Does she have any goals or wishes that she would like to do? I think it is important to have a purpose in life, otherwise we are just existing; that is a lonely life.
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Default Oct 11, 2020 at 05:54 AM
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It is most likely happening because depression is a physical illness. Your friend might have the best life imaginable, but still have an illness that strikes her.

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