[SummerTime12]

I haven’t posted here in years, so I’m not sure that anyone here remembers my situation with my (now former) therapist back in 2021. essentially, I disclosed that I was attracted to him, and things spiraled from there. he engaged in a lot of sexual conversations with me, commented on my appearance, etc.

toward the end of 2022, I was hospitalized and told the inpatient T what was happening with my outpatient T. she reported him to the licensing board, and I reluctantly agreed to go along with it (I was still super attached to him). the investigation lasted a year and I was given little to no details. in the end, all I was told was that he was given “less than public discipline,” meaning that there is no public record of him being in trouble. aside from that, the results could be pretty much anything from him receiving no consequence at all, to him needing increased supervision and getting a slap on the hand. I honestly hate the not knowing and find it so hard to truly move on without that sense of closure. thank you for reading my rant—I guess I’m just looking for support.


linked my threads from years ago for anyone who’s interested in more backstory:


“My therapist admitted he’s attracted to me”:

https://r.tapatalk.com/shareLink/top...ink_source=app

“Sent my therapist nudes”:

Sent my therapist nudes - My Support Forums

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[TheGal]

I read some of your backstory and agree with many of the other posters that your therapist was very inappropriate to put it mildly... he ought to have passed your case on to another therapist and stopped seeing you.

Do you currently hold fantasies about him, or is it really over for you? You need to be clear and, if you still are pining over him, to seriously ask yourself why? And to discuss it with your current therapist.

I'm sorry you don't have the closure you want, but I would caution against looking him up, as I think that might make you spiral downwards.

You could try writing a letter about it and then burning it in a symbolic exercise in "letting go".

If you feel that you need more information or need to be assured that he's received adequate discipline, you could contact your lawyer.

[LonesomeTonight]

Hi Summer. I do remember you and your story. I'm sorry you were left without closure or much explanation about what sort of reprimand your former therapist got. I can understand why that's distressing. And why you'd want some sort of closure.

Are you still seeing the T that reported him? I'm wondering if she'd be able to get more details about the outcome. Or if not, for you to at least talk more about how it's difficult for you to move on without knowing.

How are you doing otherwise?

[SummerTime12]

Originally Posted by TheGal

I read some of your backstory and agree with many of the other posters that your therapist was very inappropriate to put it mildly... he ought to have passed your case on to another therapist and stopped seeing you.


Do you currently hold fantasies about him, or is it really over for you? You need to be clear and, if you still are pining over him, to seriously ask yourself why? And to discuss it with your current therapist.


I'm sorry you don't have the closure you want, but I would caution against looking him up, as I think that might make you spiral downwards.


You could try writing a letter about it and then burning it in a symbolic exercise in "letting go".


If you feel that you need more information or need to be assured that he's received adequate discipline, you could contact your lawyer.

hi TheGal, thank you for the feedback. I don’t have feelings for him in the same way I used to. I do still catch myself fantasizing about him from time to time, but I honestly think it’s more out of habit than anything. it has also become less and less over time. I’ve also noticed that these days, when I do start to think of him like that, it doesn’t last long because I start to feel a sense of panic and betrayal due to his actions. so in a way maybe that’s growth? but I also have moments that I miss him terribly as my therapist and find myself almost mourning what was lost, and just wishing the inappropriate parts had never happened so that the therapeutic relationship could’ve continued.

the do not send letter is a pretty good idea tbh. I think I’ll try that.

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hi Summer. I do remember you and your story. I'm sorry you were left without closure or much explanation about what sort of reprimand your former therapist got. I can understand why that's distressing. And why you'd want some sort of closure.

Are you still seeing the T that reported him? I'm wondering if she'd be able to get more details about the outcome. Or if not, for you to at least talk more about how it's difficult for you to move on without knowing.

How are you doing otherwise?

thank you LT, and yes the not knowing has been very difficult. the person who made the report was the T assigned to me while I was hospitalized briefly, so I’m not working with her on a regular basis to where I’d be able to talk to her about it. although funnily enough, I did just bump into her outside of my work last week and she gave me a hug, lol.

I’ve been alright, a lot of ups and downs. I’ve been having a harder time as of recently though. I have a new T that I like and have been seeing her for a year, so that’s good. how have things been for you?

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