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Default Jan 03, 2020 at 07:32 PM
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A lot of the time, yes. I worry. But I think I'm getting better at just letting go and moving on.
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Default Jan 04, 2020 at 12:55 PM
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Yes way too much. I could have been a lawyer with how much I think, and the way I think.

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Default Jan 06, 2020 at 10:40 AM
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I over think things all the time. I will bring things up I think or notice about certain situations to my wife and she will be completely unaware of what I am going on about.

I find I care way too much what people think, or rather, decide for myself what they are thinking.

For example, I was in Michael's yesterday using a 10 dollar gift card - I am an artist and that is my favorite store. I have probably spent a couple thousand dollars there over the years. My last purchase was a very large purchase of canvases and paint. So I get to the counter and I am expecting a bill of about 12 or 13 dollars. It ends up being 10.05. I don't carry cash and so did not have a nickel. I joked with the cashier about having to charge 5 cents to my debit card and how I wish I had a nickel and that it was going to be a weird charge. She replied "Well, it's almost free".

I thought to myself, first it's not free, I had a gift card - money was spent. Second - did I come across as cheap? And as I was driving home, I was thinking to myself how she probably thought I was trying to wiggle out of the 5 cent charge when I was just joking with her. Most people don't get my humor. So just an example about thinking too much.

I guess it is apparent in the length of this reply as well...
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Default Jan 07, 2020 at 11:27 AM
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I do overthink and analyze pretty much everything too. I analyze myself and other people that I meet, face to face or online. A lot of the time, people dont like the things I say cause they are a result of my thoughts, like I've analyzed them early in my head making me be ahead of them and I might say something that will make them surprised and scared I think. Honestly it is annoying sometimes but at the same time it makes me feel like I'm ahead of others if that makes sense.
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Default Jan 07, 2020 at 05:52 PM
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Having ADHD I never stop thinking shutting my brain down to rest is so hard getting unwel due to stress
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Default Jan 09, 2020 at 04:21 PM
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At the moment, I am stuck in a cycle of worrying about a family situation that has gotten really out of hand.

Yesterday, I was basically obsessing about something else, all day long.

And the day before that.

So, yes.
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Default Jan 11, 2020 at 03:33 PM
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I too tend to have an overload of thoughts in my mind. Especially in the morning when I wake. The amount of negative vibes and thoughts that intrude in my head can make or break my days. After 7 years on and off in therapy, things have improved but I do find I need to stay away from overstimulation people and news. The TV and its constant negative waves can trip me into a bad place and so can short-fused people. I guess despite been encouraged to be more outgoing I find been a quiet introvert is best for me in the long term. Mixing and socialising is not always the answer to a problem but can, sad to say, cause them.

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Default Jan 11, 2020 at 03:42 PM
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All the time. I constantly have to actively visualize sending all the static away - say, down a garbage shute - so that I can focus on the task at hand.

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I talk too much.
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Default Jan 12, 2020 at 09:56 AM
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I too tend to have an overload of thoughts in my mind. Especially in the morning when I wake.
I suggest you write in a journal right after waking up. Just a page or two - you can get a lot of that sh** out on the page and have a clearer mind for the day.

I do it.
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Default Jan 13, 2020 at 09:45 AM
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I ruminate when there is an issue that’s bothering me. I know psychology says that’s unhealthy but I disagree. It is self preservation and I figure stuff out! I will admit to getting too neurotic sometimes like in the grocery store. I am trying to please several people with my cooking choices and it can get overwhelming, especially when I’m depressed.

IMHO thinking is too much when it becomes debilitating.

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Default Jan 13, 2020 at 10:36 PM
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And yes, I ruminate in social situations, too. But over time, and with treatment and CBT techniques, I've been able to tone a lot of that down. It's nowhere near as bad as it used to be.
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Default Jan 20, 2020 at 10:53 AM
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All the time, I’m an introvert and my Myers Briggs, INTJ.
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Default Jan 22, 2020 at 08:41 PM
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I’m worried I pissed off my T. I’ve been thinking about it all day to the point I’m thinking of calling her again and explaining. Also I’m waiting for an email and I’m wondering why they aren’t answering me but maybe it’s because it’s a business that closed at 5 or something.

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Default Jan 23, 2020 at 07:40 AM
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Oh yes, too often, and I know it is useless but...well there you go...let's run it by Again and see if...no...just Once more...

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Default Jan 25, 2020 at 06:20 AM
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Hey @Resonance18: I used to overthink everything. Through a combo of therapy and getting sober I learned how much energy that took and how much head space I was renting to everyone and everything I encountered. I learned through the years what I crassly call the "F**k its" I mean learning to care for me, and not what other people think about it. I know my own motivations. If people do not like me they can go F**K themselves. If they do not want to engage with me they can F**K off. I am not saying this is said to people its sort of the process I came to after years of self examining and giving weight to people who have no business affecting me in the way they used to. Its very freeing.

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and analyze yourself in social settings?
Even when I'm with close friends, I'm analyzing everything in my mind.
For example, I think :"did I sound to condescending"? "did I sound stupid"? "Should I have said it"?
I wish I could just let go and have fun with people instead of ruing it by over thinking and then regret what I say or do.

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Default Jan 26, 2020 at 08:47 AM
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Thinking too much has always been one of the biggest things that I have to deal with. It is very hard to shut off the thoughts and worries. Sometimes there are distractions when having to deal with situations, but the negative thoughts are always there. Racing thoughts... a totally different thing that i've found are a big part of my bipolar do get better with meds most of the time. It's so easy to get caught up in one's head and dwell on things...
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Default Jan 27, 2020 at 06:52 AM
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René Descartes very famously quoted

"I think, therefore I am".

Except what he didn't say is this:
  • I think, therefore I am unproductive.
  • I think therefore I worry about what others will think.
  • I think therefore I over-complicate.
  • I think therefore I assume.
  • I think therefore I am stressed.
As individuals, we create imaginary roadblocks even before we start tackling the problem. This can be potentially hazardous when making a major life decision like getting married, or buying a house or even deciding the college / career we want to pursue.

My advice is keep it simple and just do whatever you want to do without much thinking. It will always keep you happy my dears.

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