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View Poll Results: were you bullied at school?
yes, heavily, and I was also a bully 2 9.52%
yes, heavily, and I was also a bully
2 9.52%
yes, heavily, but I never bullied anyone. 7 33.33%
yes, heavily, but I never bullied anyone.
7 33.33%
heavily at first, but it got better with time 3 14.29%
heavily at first, but it got better with time
3 14.29%
yes, heavily, but had lots of friends who would back me up 0 0%
yes, heavily, but had lots of friends who would back me up
0 0%
I was bullied, but rarely 0 0%
I was bullied, but rarely
0 0%
I was bullied by the school kids even when I wasn't at school 3 14.29%
I was bullied by the school kids even when I wasn't at school
3 14.29%
not in the playground, but a lot in the classroom 1 4.76%
not in the playground, but a lot in the classroom
1 4.76%
not at all. I was well liked 2 9.52%
not at all. I was well liked
2 9.52%
I don't remember 0 0%
I don't remember
0 0%
other response 3 14.29%
other response
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Old 03-18-2019, 02:59 PM #11
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I was bullied in the classroom, not so much on the playground. I was a smart kid and some kids didn't like that.
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Just curious.....how do we personally distinguish between teasing & bullying?

The Difference Between Teasing and Bullying | PREVNet - Canada's authority on bullying

Yea, I was smart & there was teasing but I ALWAYS took it as a compliment & no one ever went past that. Maybe because I didn't react & just said "thanks"

My parents were dysfunctional but not in a harmful way (they just weren't there emotionally)

My daughter had an issue with one kid in her grade school class (late 80's) I initially tried to let her handle the situation on her own. When I found out it wasn't working I went to the teacher before school & had it out with her for not handling the situation & at the very least not having changed seats in the classroom with these two kids. I left telling the teacher that if I found out this behavior continued I would let my daughter "deck the &!#@#" & if it went to the principal they would be made aware of exactly what had been going on.

It was all resolved. My daughter knew I stood behind her & would take further action if needed but it was also her responsibility to stay away from this kid who was causing problems.

Know things like that usually aren't resolved so easily but it was nice that time it was & no other experiences ever came up. My daughter knew (& still does) that mom is the one to talk with when issues in life come up.

Good thing my parents never had the need to do that for me as they were basically incapable of standing up for themselves & were always surprised when I was the one sticking up for myself.

I WONDER just how much of that is nature vs nurture?
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Every day in or out of school, from the age of 9, was my fault for not standing up for myself.
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Every day in or out of school, from the age of 9, was my fault for not standing up for myself.
Sometimes we can't stand up for ourselves. Parent backing is important because kids don't know how to problem solve some of the very complex issues involved. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
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I barely remember my childhood. However, I remember bullying others and being bullied at school.
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It was a clique of the popular girls who didnít like me, cut me down. It was upsetting and I avoided conflict with them. No adult stopped it. Thankfully I moved and that kind of thing never happened again.
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It was a clique of the popular girls who didnít like me, cut me down. It was upsetting and I avoided conflict with them. No adult stopped it. Thankfully I moved and that kind of thing never happened again.
Oh darling....I met one of those about 10(?) or so years after HS. Came up to me in the mall acting like my long lost buddy...it was one of those times that makes life worth living...
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I was bullied a lot in elementary school. But I also was a bully too. A lot of my bullying was in retaliation to the bullyís. I got bullied because my clothes were not name brand and came from Walmart. That really messed me up as an adult and now itís not uncommon for me to be wearing a $200 outfit.

When I was in 1st grade this girl said her dad was going to shoot me. I went with my mom to the principal and the girl got in trouble for making up the story. That was almost 20 years ago. My mom said If that happened now the girls family would probably be questioned by the police.

I remember her dad was super friendly towards me after that and made sure I was invited to the girls 8th birthday party. Of course I was still scared of him even though the girl had made up the story. He did own a fire arm by the way.

A kid also put a plastic garbage bag over me in 1st grade. Thank god I was able to pull it off at such a young age.
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I also got called fat and porky in 5th and 6th grade. I was about 5 feet tall and 90 pounds. You could practically see my ribs. The kid who was 20 pounds overweight who called me those names didnít really understand what I was talking about when I mentioned the dangers of eating disorders.
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I was bullied daily , I got glasses and braces in one week at 5th grade , needed braces twice.

I spent a good amount of time in T to get over it, for the most part.
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