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Are you generally forgiving of other people’s mistakes?
Do you think forgiveness is a decision or does it flow naturally? __________________ |
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I’m pretty forgiving of people. If they continue to do stuff and don’t acknowledge their mistakes I get pretty irked though. It really annoys me when they are nice one moment and then mean the next. Those people are toxic and I try to ignore them. In general I don’t usually have an issue with people.
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I find it difficult to forgive.
been let down so many times it just comes naturally |
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#4
I forgive, mostly. But in the worst cases I will never forget.
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I forgive.....
BUT what I found from my bad marriage that it is easier to forgive from 2100 miles away than when continuing to live around what was not ok. In other words.....I can forgive but it doesn't mean I want to live around or have it a constant part of my life. With my close friends we work through anything that might come up......there was no way that working through anything worked in my marriage so leaving was my ONLY solution that gave me the ability to forgive & go on with my life. I have to say however that it took me years after my mom died to forgive her for the trauma she caused me to go through at the end of her life. I spent every day with her making sure she was protected from the evil home care person I caught being abusive. It was the right thing to do but it messed me up physically & mentally for awhile. Once therapy helped me process what I had gone through, forgiveness flowed for the difficult people who had been in my life & finally feel at peace with it all. I remember the bad things that happened they just don't bother my life any more. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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#6
I can forgive most things.
Except for infidelity. |
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I can forgive most things unless it breaks my trust and hurts me or others, then i am not so easy to forgive. It has become much harder because i have been hurt so much in the past it takes time to trust people
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Wow....I can forgive but that doesn't have anything to do with trusting them again. I have forgiven my EX-H....but I also would never trust him with anything financial or anything that required common sense. Forgiveness is for ourselves, a way of letting go of wrongs done to us but that has nothing to do with lessons learned which is related to trust
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#9
I am regarded as a forgiving person. I also think that if one forgives, it comes from the thought process.
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Do I remember what it's like to touch a hot stove? Yes. So do I recoil and avoid? Yes. Am I able to let go and move on with life and not let harsh behavior in others determine my self worth? Yes. Do I dwell, sometimes? Yes. |
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But in general, I am very forgiving of mistakes. Mistakes are unintentional or a source of regret. Goodness knows I have my own faults. If people are intentionally hurtful to me and have no regret, I don't see where forgiveness even enters into it. The hard part is that intent matters. And we can't read other people's minds. So I err on the side of being reasonable and forgiving, but there are limits. |
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Someone at work keeps being rude to me but part of me thinks it’s unintentional and she’s just not aware of what’s she’s doing. I feel like I’m being more forgiving of her then my other coworkers who are seeing the same things I am. It’s just confusing me because she does these rude things and then a few minutes later acts like nothing happened and is very nice.
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#14
I choose to forgive. I think someone who is laid back and easy going might forgive more easily, but I think most of us have to work at it.
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