are you heavily influenced?

May 11, 2019 at 04:27 PM

are you heavily influenced by what people are doing or by decisions

not me. I like to find my own things I enjoy and my own ideas

as a child, for example, litirally everything around me (even though you were unpopular if you didn't like it) I didn't like

and it's stayed with me now

Betty_Banana · May 11, 2019 at 07:49 PM

I'm not really influenced by others,well not unless I am asking for their suggestions and advice.Then if I like what they say I may consider it.

I'm not really a follower.I'm not a leader either,I just follow my own path I guess.

Mountaindewed · May 11, 2019 at 07:53 PM

I like finding my own things. I am not at all a follower. Pretty much all of the TV shows and current music and other things I like I’ve discovered by total accident. It bugs me when I see people copying others (but especially my own) opinions and the way people dress. It’s like find your own style, values, and sense of self.

MuseumGhost · May 12, 2019 at 07:34 PM

I'm pretty tough to influence. But if someone explains a point of view to me patiently and well, there is a good chance I will give them the attention they deserve. And I will definitely consider their point of view.

gina_re · May 13, 2019 at 09:25 PM

I march to the beat of my own drum

eskielover · May 18, 2019 at 09:16 AM

Too independent to be influenced about anything. I take information in & process it & decide if I agree on the overall big picture or not of what the information is about. Have always been like that.....nothing taught....just always the way I thought through things

Fuzzybear · May 25, 2019 at 03:17 PM

I’m not usually influenced by others.. in no way am I a “typical human” whatever that is. I have my own (fur) style etc

happysobercrafter · May 25, 2019 at 04:45 PM

Being raised by a controlling, manipulative narcissistic psychopath mother, it has taken me ages of my life to break free from that enmeshment, figure out and settle into my style.

I am much happier this way!

May 25, 2019 at 06:47 PM

As early as four I was marching to the beat of my own drum.

Poiuytl · May 25, 2019 at 06:59 PM

When I am influenced I am typically not aware of it, so it is not easily possible to say how strongly I am influenced.

Also, I think I am a follower. But I am a bad follower, who loiters and hesitates and stops following in order to argue, and so I lose my leaders, and become lost.

Maybe in my heart I am a leader, but was early influenced into underrating my leadership potential by competing leaders with better politics or stronger arms.

eskielover · May 25, 2019 at 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Poiuytl

When I am influenced I am typically not aware of it, so it is not easily possible to say how strongly I am influenced.

Also, I think I am a follower. But I am a bad follower, who loiters and hesitates and stops following in order to argue, and so I lose my leaders, and become lost.

Maybe in my heart I am a leader, but was early influenced into underrating my leadership potential by competing leaders with better politics or stronger arms.

Ah this sounds familiar. My mom told me (after I was older in life) thst my kindergarten teacher had told her I had leadership potential that she needed to nurture. Me mom told me she had no idea what my kindergarten teacher was talking about & didn't have a clue what to do. So basically whatever was there was never mentored but my independent nature & not following others existed anyway. I was nothing like my family & I had no desire to be like them. I floundered a lot because my independent nature was not always handled by me is a good way since it seemed like I had to fight for everything growing up or do without (even as an only child)

My nature kept me from being influenced by others.....but I was sure good at influencing myself.

healingme4me · May 25, 2019 at 08:42 PM

No, I'm not easily swayed by the pull of the crowd.

I'd perhaps be considered leadership worthy if I were type A and not more of a live and let live 'Mainer' mindset. ?? Not to say that I don't lead in a pinch nor that I haven't reached supervisory/management levels in the workforce including in mindset.

Certainly not going with the crowd leads to a bit of ostracism, yet, that leads to finding one's own tribe/people/like minded others. So there's that.

KD1980 · May 26, 2019 at 09:02 AM

When I was younger, I was definitely heavily influenced. I didn't have my own identity.

As I got older, I developed more of a resistance, but even so, I'm self aware enough to know that it I'm not careful I can be influenced by my environment.

hvert · May 27, 2019 at 07:14 AM

I'd like to think I'm not easily influenced, but when I drive by the Thai restaurant near my house, the smell makes me want Thai food.

eskielover · May 27, 2019 at 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by hvert

I'd like to think I'm not easily influenced, but when I drive by the Thai restaurant near my house, the smell makes me want Thai food.

Ah YES....there are just some food smells that can't be resisted

-jimi- · May 27, 2019 at 12:38 PM

When my friend wants one thing and I another, I accept her suggestion but add a little hesitation to my tone. That is usually enough to skip her over to my suggestion. Like that is what SHE wanted... Yup I'm horrible. But so is she. We have a great friendship despite this.

When it comes to small things, I let others decide. I only speak up if it is really unacceptable to me. Small choices are chores and I don't like chores.

About big things in my life, I usually basically never change my mind unless I realize someone has a brilliant idea.

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Anonymous32451 Guest Posts: n/a	May 11, 2019 at 04:27 PM #1 are you heavily influenced by what people are doing or by decisions not me. I like to find my own things I enjoy and my own ideas as a child, for example, litirally everything around me (even though you were unpopular if you didn't like it) I didn't like and it's stayed with me now
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Betty_Banana Veteran Member Member Since Oct 2011 Location: USA Posts: 691 12 314 hugs given	May 11, 2019 at 07:49 PM #2 I'm not really influenced by others,well not unless I am asking for their suggestions and advice.Then if I like what they say I may consider it. I'm not really a follower.I'm not a leader either,I just follow my own path I guess.
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Mountaindewed Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Where the sidewalk ends Posts: 36,089 (SuperPoster!) 7 8,728 hugs given	May 11, 2019 at 07:53 PM #3 I like finding my own things. I am not at all a follower. Pretty much all of the TV shows and current music and other things I like I’ve discovered by total accident. It bugs me when I see people copying others (but especially my own) opinions and the way people dress. It’s like find your own style, values, and sense of self. __________________ Ridin' with Biden
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MuseumGhost Grand Magnate Member Since Apr 2012 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,257 12 12.3k hugs given	May 12, 2019 at 07:34 PM #4 I'm pretty tough to influence. But if someone explains a point of view to me patiently and well, there is a good chance I will give them the attention they deserve. And I will definitely consider their point of view.
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Fuzzybear Wisest Elder Ever Member Since Nov 2002 Location: Cave. Posts: 96,325 (SuperPoster!) 21 81.2k hugs given	May 25, 2019 at 03:17 PM #7 I’m not usually influenced by others.. in no way am I a “typical human” whatever that is. I have my own (fur) style etc __________________
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Anonymous40643 Guest Posts: n/a	May 25, 2019 at 06:47 PM #9 As early as four I was marching to the beat of my own drum.
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KD1980 Member Member Since Nov 2018 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 368 5 1,334 hugs given	May 26, 2019 at 09:02 AM #13 When I was younger, I was definitely heavily influenced. I didn't have my own identity. As I got older, I developed more of a resistance, but even so, I'm self aware enough to know that it I'm not careful I can be influenced by my environment.
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hvert Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: US Posts: 4,887 10 3,785 hugs given	May 27, 2019 at 07:14 AM #14 I'd like to think I'm not easily influenced, but when I drive by the Thai restaurant near my house, the smell makes me want Thai food.
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