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Aug 13, 2019 at 07:43 AM
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My son who is a raging alcoholic and also suffers from depression contacted me yesterday to say he has a lot of things to tell me and is coming over today I haven’t seen or heard from him in months not from lack of trying. I am really scared to see him and very nervous. I have no idea how to react to seeing him or how it is going to affect me and have no clue what he wants to tell me.
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Aug 13, 2019 at 07:52 AM
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Tell me what you are afraid of, please.
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Aug 13, 2019 at 07:58 AM
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Seeing him after not speaking for so long
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Aug 13, 2019 at 09:12 AM
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I am trying to think of what could help you. Not knowing anything about you or your situation limits me. Is there anyone who could be there with you while he is there?
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Aug 13, 2019 at 09:21 AM
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I’m not sure everyone is kind of mad at him so I don’t want to make the situation worse by having them here
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Aug 13, 2019 at 09:36 AM
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I hear you. You aren't in any physical danger, are you?
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Aug 13, 2019 at 09:41 AM
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I agree with HappyCrafter on both points; it is difficult to find an answer not knowing the context of the situation, and that perhaps having someone there to advocate for and make you comfortable is a good way to manage the situation. Another thought though is what about meeting in a public space? I don't think it would hurt either to ask him the nature of what he wants to converse about. It could be a simple as asking, "What can I expect?" or, "Do I need to be concerned?" I realise it is far easier to say than do something but in my mind such questions are not confrontational.
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Aug 13, 2019 at 10:06 AM
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I think asking him is a good idea. No I’m not in any physical danger apparently he has a girlfriend who will be coming with him so that makes me feel better
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Aug 13, 2019 at 10:34 AM
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Excellent!!! Any idea when to expect them?
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Aug 13, 2019 at 11:29 AM
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I can fully understand your anxiety. Remember to be conscious of your breath (it's so easy to hold our breath, to not breathe deeply and evenly). Good breathing will automatically help your to be calmer.
If you can possibly do so, try to focus on your relationship with your son, not what other think or will say. For now, it's just you and him. Please keep us posted. 
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Aug 13, 2019 at 12:22 PM
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HUGS if you want them. I hope it goes okay. Kit
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Aug 13, 2019 at 05:52 PM
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It went okay he just wanted to bring me up to speed on what was going on with him apparently. Seems kind of odd after not talking to me for two months.
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Aug 13, 2019 at 06:00 PM
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You said he is a raging alcoholic, right? I was an alcoholic for 30 years of my life; managing the pain I drank to avoid was hard work. I distanced myself from situations that made me anxious until I learned better habits.
Could that be something he might be going through? __________________ "Love you. Take care of you. Be true to you. You are the only you, you will ever know the best. Reach for YOUR stars. You can reach them better than anyone else ever can." Landon Clary Eason Grateful Sobriety Fangirl Since 11-16-2007 Happy Sober Crafter |
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